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You guys told me-- D C always come back--Please advise
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 658520" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Hi Seeking...I've missed you!</p><p></p><p>You've gotten good advice here. At a MINIMUM wait a day or two or a week to respond. If there is real change or this is a real attempt to reach out, a single one line text won't be the end of it, he'll try again. </p><p></p><p>We know that Difficult Child's like the "PING" of immediate feedback. Nothing healthy in engaging in that. So wait a bit.</p><p></p><p>Listen to your spirit animal (hahah, that isn't really my thing but I kind of like it here). She is snorting and stamping in alarm, all her hair and fur standing on end. Move slowly. As RE and COM would say...doing nothing is often the best choice.</p><p></p><p>If you really don't want him in your life...don't respond at all.</p><p></p><p>If I were you...I would delete it to keep from perseverating over it, and see if more follows.</p><p></p><p>But that is me. I am big on deleting troublesome texts. I am also big on denial, so those things may go hand in hand.</p><p></p><p>Whatever is happening is OK. You will know how to handle yourselves. Relationships are long..there is no such thing as ruining them or missing an opportunity in a single moment. If he has changed and is reaching out, there will be more. If he is being manipulative, you have created space and strength and will recognize it and protect yourself.</p><p></p><p>We are always here for you.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you and husband.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 658520, member: 17269"] Hi Seeking...I've missed you! You've gotten good advice here. At a MINIMUM wait a day or two or a week to respond. If there is real change or this is a real attempt to reach out, a single one line text won't be the end of it, he'll try again. We know that Difficult Child's like the "PING" of immediate feedback. Nothing healthy in engaging in that. So wait a bit. Listen to your spirit animal (hahah, that isn't really my thing but I kind of like it here). She is snorting and stamping in alarm, all her hair and fur standing on end. Move slowly. As RE and COM would say...doing nothing is often the best choice. If you really don't want him in your life...don't respond at all. If I were you...I would delete it to keep from perseverating over it, and see if more follows. But that is me. I am big on deleting troublesome texts. I am also big on denial, so those things may go hand in hand. Whatever is happening is OK. You will know how to handle yourselves. Relationships are long..there is no such thing as ruining them or missing an opportunity in a single moment. If he has changed and is reaching out, there will be more. If he is being manipulative, you have created space and strength and will recognize it and protect yourself. We are always here for you. Hugs to you and husband. Echo [/QUOTE]
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