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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 68586" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Janna, hon.... take one really *deep* breath.</p><p></p><p>You are understandably gun shy after all you've been through with- difficult child #2. There is a learning curve with- new caretakers/staff and I'd bet my bottom dollar that you are going to be far more successful with- Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff than you were with- the various fosters.</p><p></p><p>First things first - is Dylan safe? He has a cough. Call unit and request that he see Residential Treatment Center (RTC) nurse *today*. He's waking up soaking and staff for some ridiculous reason thinks diapers are by prescription only. Again, Dylan needs to see nurse *today*, for both of these issues. If this cannot be done, then *first* thing tomorrow morning or a call from a supervisor as to why not. Pleasant request, not threatening, but follow up on it tomorrow. Personally, I'd bring the diapers up myself tonight, not in an outwardly angry or frustrated manner, but just to make sure Dylan gets what he needs, now. You are still his parent and you have that right. If staff insists on rx, invite them to please call psychiatrist or whomever now - you *know* that there are medical staff available 24/7, one way or another.</p><p></p><p>I really really suspect that you might possibly be running into staff who are used to dealing with- parents who say "ok" and leave it. It takes a while to get staff to figure out that we're not that way. Deep breaths. These are hopefully minor frustrations compared to the benefit that Dylan will get out of the program given your description of it.</p><p></p><p>The staffing via phone has become the norm for me over the last 4 years or so. Used to be I'd trek to wherever but now they do it by phone. It is more convenient all around, in my humble opinion, but if you want to do staffings in person, just tell them that's what you'd like. Again, probably not the usual parent request, but then you are *not* the usual parent, are you? :warrior:</p><p></p><p>The gazillion, unrelated questions? SOP. And no, they probably didn't read your evaluation yet. Grit teeth, breathe deeply (probably sit down in case of hyperventilation), and let them get organized.</p><p></p><p>Is Dylan safe? Yes.</p><p></p><p>Therapist thinks time outs might work? Invite her to please feel free to give it a try. Tell her what your experience has been with them and what you would expect Dyl's response to be. Again, just my experience, but that learning curve works both ways - staff has to figure out that you really do know what you're talking about (again, remember that most parents are not like you by any stretch) and they also have to earn your trust as well. A 2 way street which is excrutiating the first couple of weeks.</p><p></p><p>I feel your frustration in my very nerve endings, Janna. been there done that. I really very strongly feel, based on your description of the program, that once staff gets to know you and understand that you *are* the expert on Dyl, things will get a bit smoother. They are never going to do everything they way you would, and there may be some things you are really going to have to stay on top of (nursing service was a biggie at thank you's first Residential Treatment Center (RTC), which in all other ways was outstanding). </p><p></p><p>Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 68586, member: 8"] Janna, hon.... take one really *deep* breath. You are understandably gun shy after all you've been through with- difficult child #2. There is a learning curve with- new caretakers/staff and I'd bet my bottom dollar that you are going to be far more successful with- Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff than you were with- the various fosters. First things first - is Dylan safe? He has a cough. Call unit and request that he see Residential Treatment Center (RTC) nurse *today*. He's waking up soaking and staff for some ridiculous reason thinks diapers are by prescription only. Again, Dylan needs to see nurse *today*, for both of these issues. If this cannot be done, then *first* thing tomorrow morning or a call from a supervisor as to why not. Pleasant request, not threatening, but follow up on it tomorrow. Personally, I'd bring the diapers up myself tonight, not in an outwardly angry or frustrated manner, but just to make sure Dylan gets what he needs, now. You are still his parent and you have that right. If staff insists on rx, invite them to please call psychiatrist or whomever now - you *know* that there are medical staff available 24/7, one way or another. I really really suspect that you might possibly be running into staff who are used to dealing with- parents who say "ok" and leave it. It takes a while to get staff to figure out that we're not that way. Deep breaths. These are hopefully minor frustrations compared to the benefit that Dylan will get out of the program given your description of it. The staffing via phone has become the norm for me over the last 4 years or so. Used to be I'd trek to wherever but now they do it by phone. It is more convenient all around, in my humble opinion, but if you want to do staffings in person, just tell them that's what you'd like. Again, probably not the usual parent request, but then you are *not* the usual parent, are you? [img]:warrior:[/img] The gazillion, unrelated questions? SOP. And no, they probably didn't read your evaluation yet. Grit teeth, breathe deeply (probably sit down in case of hyperventilation), and let them get organized. Is Dylan safe? Yes. Therapist thinks time outs might work? Invite her to please feel free to give it a try. Tell her what your experience has been with them and what you would expect Dyl's response to be. Again, just my experience, but that learning curve works both ways - staff has to figure out that you really do know what you're talking about (again, remember that most parents are not like you by any stretch) and they also have to earn your trust as well. A 2 way street which is excrutiating the first couple of weeks. I feel your frustration in my very nerve endings, Janna. been there done that. I really very strongly feel, based on your description of the program, that once staff gets to know you and understand that you *are* the expert on Dyl, things will get a bit smoother. They are never going to do everything they way you would, and there may be some things you are really going to have to stay on top of (nursing service was a biggie at thank you's first Residential Treatment Center (RTC), which in all other ways was outstanding). Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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