Yes, there are some rules that cannot be broken/bent. However, for other things that are not life-endangering, are we choosing our battles based on how big the meltdown will be compared to the request/demand? Because at this point I feel we have picked our battles to the point of requiring only the most basic of functions be fulfilled by difficult child. That being said, today, I had the usual confrontation with difficult child about wearing underwear! This battle has been fought every day for 10 months. I refuse to let it go. He is 12. He can't go commando in public for numerous reasons that I'm sure you all can imagine. He has a 'fit' every.single.day. Goes through the yelling and refusal and tellls me he will take it off in the bathroom, flush it, etc, etc. He actually will rage about this-sooo draining. I feel like this issue is symbolic of how much we have 'let go' to keep peace (funny but it seems there still is plenty of chaos despite picking our battles). He cannot be reasoned with about it either (I've tried Collaborative Problem Solving). I have purchased different types of underwear/boxers, given him permission to be underwearless at home (with shorts/pants/jammies on of course), explained the numerous reasons for wearing it. Would you give up this battle??