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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 640034" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Thing is, you may well have contributed to your daughter's issues (I know I have contributed to my son's issues and I tend to think there are very few, if any, perfect parents out there, who wouldn't had done mistakes.) Maybe you even committed some big screw ups that hurt her. That too happens. But you can't make it better for her. She has to learn to deal with adverse things in her life on her own. Find her way to cope.</p><p></p><p>It is appropriate, and healing to both of you, to apologise for mistakes you did. But just remember that you did your best, even if it at some moments that was not enough. And you loved her. Tell her you can't solve her issues or heal the hurt, that if you could, you would, but it is not possible. And advise her to seek counselling to learn to heal herself. Tell her you love her and you are in her corner, but she still has to do that herself. Like you will need to do the work with your issues.</p><p></p><p>It may not be fair, but it is how it is.</p><p></p><p>And for your own healing, while it is good to see what went wrong, what you would wished you would had done differently, it is also important to learn to be merciful for yourself, forgive yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 640034, member: 14557"] Thing is, you may well have contributed to your daughter's issues (I know I have contributed to my son's issues and I tend to think there are very few, if any, perfect parents out there, who wouldn't had done mistakes.) Maybe you even committed some big screw ups that hurt her. That too happens. But you can't make it better for her. She has to learn to deal with adverse things in her life on her own. Find her way to cope. It is appropriate, and healing to both of you, to apologise for mistakes you did. But just remember that you did your best, even if it at some moments that was not enough. And you loved her. Tell her you can't solve her issues or heal the hurt, that if you could, you would, but it is not possible. And advise her to seek counselling to learn to heal herself. Tell her you love her and you are in her corner, but she still has to do that herself. Like you will need to do the work with your issues. It may not be fair, but it is how it is. And for your own healing, while it is good to see what went wrong, what you would wished you would had done differently, it is also important to learn to be merciful for yourself, forgive yourself. [/QUOTE]
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