of the things you do. Years ago J had a problem with a girl stealing her school supplies. After talking with Jess, who NEVER wanted anyone to get into trouble at school, I got each girl their own fancy looking school supplies. I put each girl's name on each thing, including on every single crayon.I gave the supply kit to the girl and told her that it was not a reward for being mean. it was hers because we wanted her to not need to take J's things and by taking it she was agreeing to stop taking J's things. It seemed to work at the time Jess ran into the girl a few weeks back. The girl said to tell me hi! and also said she still had, and treasured the supplies. I almost cried when Jess told me that those were the first things she ever had that were hers alone and were new and nice. They made her think that she was valuable, and worthwhile. it helped her not fall into the trap of high school parenthood, and to work to be the first in her family to go to college at a 4 yr college. I was astonished. so much impact from a simple school supply it that cost under $13 for 2 sets of matching items. Try to meet people with kindness first, while being firm where needed of course, because you have no idea what the impact will truly be.