Thank God above husband evidently knew enough not to volunteer anything without clearing it with me first. Huge relief there. They got here about noonish. Came in like a whirlwind. And I though OMG! Kayla and Alex literally threw themselves into my arms, and Evan was right behind them. They simply could not get enough hugs and kisses or telling me how much they loved me and Papa. Katie and her husband did thank us profusely. They didn't complain they had to be squished like sardines in a can for more than an hour after 10 hrs on a bus. They didn't ask for anything. BUT......... Katie no more than got done with the greetings and I handed her the phone, the list of shelters, and the phone book. She spent hours on the phone today, literally. She called all shelters including those in surrounding counties and cincy and even dayton. Everyone is full. UGH Of course they are, my luck would simply not run any other way. Ours will have a family room opening in about a month. You'd be proud. I didn't panic. I just opened the phone book again and looked up churches. Katie went through all the churches in the phone book.......and just when it really started to look bleak.......she found one that may help them with the weekly rent on the motel room..........which is 100.00 per wk vs 42.00 a day until they can get into the shelter. So keep those prayers coming!!! They seem to be working. They left just a short bit ago to go to the motel for the night. Yes, I stuck to my guns and flat out wouldn't even consider asking them to stay. (proud of myself) Nichole came down from dayton with aubrey and once the phone calls were done we spent the day visiting. I've never been hugged, kissed and told I was loved so much in just one day in my whole life. lol They are terribly thin, but at least this time they were clean. Katie did bring what she could along with them. (I was shocked) She did bring all the important paperwork. Shocked again. While we visited we made plans of who needed to be contacted and places they could try for work. We've made our list for tomorrow. Katie didn't waste money on food. Lunch consisted of much appreciated PB&J sandwiches and lemonaide. You'd have thought I gave those kids steak....... They had fun playing with Aubrey and I got to learn a bit more about this "shelter". Shelter was in a really really bad neighborhood. (I figured as much) They saw a man get shot who was just standing at the bus stop waiting for the bus. Katie tried to go somewhere once alone and some dude tried to pull her into his car.......scared the hades out of her as she nearly didn't get away from him. She was too scared to go anywhere alone after that. Her husband did work. When he did the odd jobs for the shelter he made 60 bucks a wk, 20 of which went back right back to the shelter. Then when her husband landed a job cutting grass.....he made fairly decent money, except then the shelter took a huge chunk out of that for "rent". WTH? How are they supposed to progress out of the shelter? Then of course...now that the season is changing and there were no more mowing jobs and no odd jobs at the shelter.......which meant the kids had no money coming in.......shelter kept telling them they'd have to be moved out to make room for other people........that and the violence in the area is what prompted the decision to leave when they did. Yep, I can understand expecting people to contribute. I have no problem with that, but why would you have them contribute so much that it makes it almost impossible to save money to move beyond the shelter. Place sounds more like a sham that takes advantage of people than a shelter. ugh And I know this part is true because I just got off the phone with Katie's biomom a short while ago. Supper was a big batch of spagetti with bread and butter because I haven't been grocery shopping in quite a while. Again you'd have thought I'd given them steak. Kayla told me the shelter would give them 3 fish sticks and uncooked potatoes for supper....and Katie and her husband said that half cooked or uncooked food was frequent.....they even tried to get the clients to eat bloody chicken. They are now at the motel. Tomorrow starts a long day of enrolling the grands in school, welfare, wic, getting in contact with that pastor about the motel rent.......getting her and her husband started at a program here called turning point where they help you get a job and for those who need a GED will put them into that program for free......they should even set up her husband with classes at the college to learn to read. In this area not being able to read as an adult is fairly common. Long list of stuff to do which husband will be doing most of the driving for. I am pleasantly surprised. Overall other than being excited the grands were well behaved even wild child Evan. Their parents watched them and made them respect our things. Katie and her husband seem eager to find work and willing to do whatever it takes to get work. So totally different from 10 yrs ago when katie arrived. Before they left for the night her husband said if there was anything at all they could do to help they'll do it.......from helping with food from their food stamps to whatever they could. So we'll see about that. So far it's going ok. They aren't asking for anything except for a ride to some of the places they really wouldn't be able to walk to as they're on the other side of town. They're being respectful and appreciative. But since they're difficult children.......realistically it could just be a honeymoon phase. The grandkids were what got to us the most. They were thrilled that I have their pictures (along with all the other grands) around the house.....seemed to amaze them. They quite simply could not get enough of us. I was nearly hugged and kissed to death again when husband took them over the the motel.......and he was too when he dropped them off. Then all the grands kept asking him if they really were going to come back here tomorrow........the desperation.... husband said when he found them in the bus station he suddenly had 3 kids racing across the building to greet him, throwing arms around him and smothering him affection. .husband cried when he told me about it. Maybe Katie and her husband will not change. Maybe this has very little to do with katie and her husband........and everything to do with these children who have already seen and experienced far too much in their short lives. They were so grateful for the small amt of yard sale clothes we'd picked up for them.....made my heart ache. I saw appreciation in all their faces, not just the children. I expected Molly to growl and lunge for Katie's husband when he came in. I was ready to grab her if she did. She didn't even so much as bark at him. Molly is an expert at judging humans. Surprised the heck out of me. Hmmm. Still not sure what to think about that one. On sat there will be a family reunion of sorts. easy child and Nichole have gotten together and planned a huge dinner. That sort of surprised me as easy child hasn't acted very thrilled with all this from the get go. And easy child told me tonight she wants to go to yard sales this sat or to the thrift store to see about getting Alex some more much needed clothes. We didn't buy him as much as I was afraid the sizes katie gave me for him just had to be wrong......but they weren't. Kayla is 10 and only wearing a size 8. Alex is 9 and wearing a size 10. But like I said all 3 kids have lost a lot of weight.......I know because I know what they looked like before becoming homeless via the computer and web cam. easy child has offered to buy their halloween costumes so they can trick or treat with their cousins. No doubt both Alex and Even are full blown difficult children.......both obviously autistic, Alex has the MRDD thing going on too.......and who knows with Evan. But thankfully Katie even thought to bring along Alex's IEP. I'm exhausted. It's been a long day. All in all, a happy day........maybe a bit bitter sweet.......But it's good to have my Kayla and Alex here, to be able to hug them, love them, touch them.......Evan, yes my heart reached out to him too. But I don't know that I'll ever have the same bond with him I do the other 2. If Katie and her husband are willing...........I will help show them how to be adults. I sat and talked with them all afternoon. If katie is using drugs.......this time I see no signs of it. Same for him. I am hoping that means it won't be an issue. Her husband was social and wasn't that bad as far as first impressions go. (if you don't count that I met him once the last time she was here) So I'll reserve judgment. Weird thing is............I did get that call from katie's biomom not long after they went to the motel. She said so and so at the shelter (guessing someone who works there) told her the kids still have most of the funds on the card for this month. This worker wanted to know if the kids want her to give them cash for what is left on the card and biomom will send it to them........or what. I'll have katie call her mom and talk to her. I don't know what to think of husband's ex at this point and katie needs to talk to welfare to see what is or isn't legal concerning the card. Actually, I think her husband called the toll free number and cancelled the card tonight.......I know he tried to anyway. So that was our 1st day. Hopefully the pastor of the church will help them with motel rent until they can get into the shelter. Of course I'll still have them looking for work ect even before that shelter spot opens. If we get really lucky and they can find work.........maybe they can get into the hud apartments and bi-pass the shelter altogether. Thanks for the prayers, plz keep praying. Man I'm tired.