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Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 705880" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Why not go in and clean out his room, get rid of everything you don't want in there? Strip it to everything a foster kid can have and make him earn the right to have anything in that room that is above that? He can buy all the bongs he wants, but it is a waste of $$ if Mom keeps destroying them, and they are NOT cheap! Same for vape systems etc...</p><p></p><p>I would argue about the safety issue. If pot is not legal in your state, then it could become a CPS issue for custody of you and your husband keeping your other children for your son to have pot in your home. I have seen it come down to CPS removing children because parents could not or would not turn a child in for using pot. I am not saying this is right, but this is sometimes what happens. Plus is one of your children is drug tested for school sports or extra curricular involvement and shows positive for any level of marijuana, then has to say it is because their brother is 'allowed'/not stopped from smoking in the home, then CPS is going to get a call from the school (it will be mandatory) and you will be lucky if the cops are not called on you and your husband. Plus if your son is dealing (often if you use you deal to some extent), then the cops can claim the home is used for dealing and you can have property seized. It can become a HUGE mess. I have listened to cops justify doing this with very little justification, sometimes KNOWING it was a teen doing this and that mom and dad simply didn't know how to stop it. </p><p></p><p>Do any of your kids have asthma or allergies? If so, the pot smoking may be a safety issue for them, but not a violence type issue. Is that an issue that you can discuss with him? Maybe make him responsible for those doctor bills? Those really pile up and you may not have thought about those in relationship to the pot smoking. I am betting his job won't pay for too many of those bills. I also bet he won't be able to pay for a lot of rent, etc.... I would make him pay phone, cable, and other bills as much as possible. You don't have to give him access to ANY of those things. I would say no pot or else he forks over cold hard cash for any extra he wants including any fun food he wants. </p><p></p><p>These are just ideas. I hope they help. I do urge complete drug testing. If ANYTHING other than pot shows up, PLEASE get more help. It is more serious. If it were my kid and ANYTHING other than pot showed up, I would be calling the cops and reporting him. But I am a stickler and a don't put up with even pot because it isn't legal in my state. I would likely try it if it were legal, but it isn't so I won't. I am just that way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 705880, member: 1233"] Why not go in and clean out his room, get rid of everything you don't want in there? Strip it to everything a foster kid can have and make him earn the right to have anything in that room that is above that? He can buy all the bongs he wants, but it is a waste of $$ if Mom keeps destroying them, and they are NOT cheap! Same for vape systems etc... I would argue about the safety issue. If pot is not legal in your state, then it could become a CPS issue for custody of you and your husband keeping your other children for your son to have pot in your home. I have seen it come down to CPS removing children because parents could not or would not turn a child in for using pot. I am not saying this is right, but this is sometimes what happens. Plus is one of your children is drug tested for school sports or extra curricular involvement and shows positive for any level of marijuana, then has to say it is because their brother is 'allowed'/not stopped from smoking in the home, then CPS is going to get a call from the school (it will be mandatory) and you will be lucky if the cops are not called on you and your husband. Plus if your son is dealing (often if you use you deal to some extent), then the cops can claim the home is used for dealing and you can have property seized. It can become a HUGE mess. I have listened to cops justify doing this with very little justification, sometimes KNOWING it was a teen doing this and that mom and dad simply didn't know how to stop it. Do any of your kids have asthma or allergies? If so, the pot smoking may be a safety issue for them, but not a violence type issue. Is that an issue that you can discuss with him? Maybe make him responsible for those doctor bills? Those really pile up and you may not have thought about those in relationship to the pot smoking. I am betting his job won't pay for too many of those bills. I also bet he won't be able to pay for a lot of rent, etc.... I would make him pay phone, cable, and other bills as much as possible. You don't have to give him access to ANY of those things. I would say no pot or else he forks over cold hard cash for any extra he wants including any fun food he wants. These are just ideas. I hope they help. I do urge complete drug testing. If ANYTHING other than pot shows up, PLEASE get more help. It is more serious. If it were my kid and ANYTHING other than pot showed up, I would be calling the cops and reporting him. But I am a stickler and a don't put up with even pot because it isn't legal in my state. I would likely try it if it were legal, but it isn't so I won't. I am just that way. [/QUOTE]
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