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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 649243" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Tess, I just went through this with my son and his girlfriend. She stabbed him last summer and was convicted of a misdemeanor for it, reduced from a felony, aggravated domestic assault. </p><p></p><p>In December she sent me a Fb message saying she is pregnant but don't worry we will probably get an abortion. </p><p></p><p>I felt multiple feelings about this like I am sure you do.</p><p></p><p>I decided not to respond, not to mention this to my son and to do nothing. girlfriend and I have met and she was here doe Christmas and I had gifts for Her but we don't really communicate beyond that. She has always been fine with me communication-wise. I decided that while I would very much rather them not be together, that I was going to keep my side of the street clean when it comes to her. In other words, be kind and polite but stay back.</p><p></p><p>About three weeks ago difficult child called to say they were at the er and she had a miscarriage. Oh by the way she was pregnant he said. He described the events of the night and I just said I am sorry and I hope you are both okay. </p><p></p><p>Now she is in a psychiatric hospital because on Sunday due to the miscarriage and her untreated bipolar disorder she tried to cut herself. difficult child called 911 etc.</p><p></p><p>Yes this was my grandchild. Yes she is definitely not who I would choose for my grandchilds mother. Yes my son is finally making some progress and now this. Yes both of them are in no way prepared to be good parents. As far as I know.</p><p></p><p>tess I know you are a mass of emotions and at the base of it all you love your precious daughter and are glad to be in contact with her. I am so glad that this situation has reconnected you both.</p><p></p><p>It is natural to turn your deep fear into rage against the "other one." I get that.</p><p></p><p>Tess if you can, try to wait. Try to stand by and just let a little time go by. Offer your love support and encouragement. See what happens without trying to make something happen. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. We are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 649243, member: 17542"] Tess, I just went through this with my son and his girlfriend. She stabbed him last summer and was convicted of a misdemeanor for it, reduced from a felony, aggravated domestic assault. In December she sent me a Fb message saying she is pregnant but don't worry we will probably get an abortion. I felt multiple feelings about this like I am sure you do. I decided not to respond, not to mention this to my son and to do nothing. girlfriend and I have met and she was here doe Christmas and I had gifts for Her but we don't really communicate beyond that. She has always been fine with me communication-wise. I decided that while I would very much rather them not be together, that I was going to keep my side of the street clean when it comes to her. In other words, be kind and polite but stay back. About three weeks ago difficult child called to say they were at the er and she had a miscarriage. Oh by the way she was pregnant he said. He described the events of the night and I just said I am sorry and I hope you are both okay. Now she is in a psychiatric hospital because on Sunday due to the miscarriage and her untreated bipolar disorder she tried to cut herself. difficult child called 911 etc. Yes this was my grandchild. Yes she is definitely not who I would choose for my grandchilds mother. Yes my son is finally making some progress and now this. Yes both of them are in no way prepared to be good parents. As far as I know. tess I know you are a mass of emotions and at the base of it all you love your precious daughter and are glad to be in contact with her. I am so glad that this situation has reconnected you both. It is natural to turn your deep fear into rage against the "other one." I get that. Tess if you can, try to wait. Try to stand by and just let a little time go by. Offer your love support and encouragement. See what happens without trying to make something happen. Hang in there. We are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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