DadInProgress
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Tried having dinner with my dad and mom and brother. My dad made condescending comments about both our life choices. Even though we are both very successful just not mirror images of him. And since he only likes to talk about himself , he has no true interest or appreciation for what we’ve accomplished.
Per usual, he crossed the line. My younger bro got sad and left the table. I sat their pissed letting him know he couldn’t get to me. This pissed him off, so he started rambling this list of things I hadn’t done.(hadn’t done his way) I stood there stone faced, biting my tongue not to respond. Eventually he stopped and walked away.
5 min later he walks upstairs and apologizes to my brother with me standing 3 feet away. The walked past me like I was a ghost.
Now he is outside chatting with the neighbors as though he has the family from heaven.
I’m glad I kept my cool, but wow it took me back to being the scapegoat. Felt good to not let him get to me. And realize that I learned exactly how not to be a dad from him.
Just venting...thanks.
Per usual, he crossed the line. My younger bro got sad and left the table. I sat their pissed letting him know he couldn’t get to me. This pissed him off, so he started rambling this list of things I hadn’t done.(hadn’t done his way) I stood there stone faced, biting my tongue not to respond. Eventually he stopped and walked away.
5 min later he walks upstairs and apologizes to my brother with me standing 3 feet away. The walked past me like I was a ghost.
Now he is outside chatting with the neighbors as though he has the family from heaven.
I’m glad I kept my cool, but wow it took me back to being the scapegoat. Felt good to not let him get to me. And realize that I learned exactly how not to be a dad from him.
Just venting...thanks.