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1 broken laptop + 1 broken phone = I HATE MY LIFE!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 168331" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>My thoughts about the friend being in the house were similar to another poster's. It's bad enough that your daughter disrespects you that much in your home, but it just would never happen that some leachy friend of one of my kids didn't understand what I meant when I told them to leave. There would be no doubt whatsoever that they had better get out of my house before their belongs and then their behinds got thrown out the front door. No "asking" involved.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like it's time to strip her room of everything but the bed, pillow and blanket. Stash your stuff in your room, and only take it out when you yourself are going to use it. Put a good deadbolt lock on your door, and keep everything, including your purse, cell phone and car keys, in there unless you are using them. Make your home as unattractive to her as you possibly can.</p><p></p><p>Under no circumstances let her slip one little bit. You own the house and everything in it. You make the rules. You let her live there with the bare necessities because you don't owe her any more than that and she doesn't deserve any more than that. She should <em>absolutely</em> understand that you are done playing by her rules. Stand up straight, take a deep breath, and tell her very firmly "no". If she doesn't stop tell her "get out of my house". If she doesn't go, call the ambulance or the police. </p><p></p><p>It's BS that people with Borderline (BPD) can't change. Is it difficult? Yes. Will it ever happen if they don't see any benefit to it? No. Can they adapt? Yes. Let her figure out how to adapt her behavior to get the types of things she wants from you. She wants a computer and a phone? Stop being a screaming banshee brat or find it somewhere else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 168331, member: 99"] My thoughts about the friend being in the house were similar to another poster's. It's bad enough that your daughter disrespects you that much in your home, but it just would never happen that some leachy friend of one of my kids didn't understand what I meant when I told them to leave. There would be no doubt whatsoever that they had better get out of my house before their belongs and then their behinds got thrown out the front door. No "asking" involved. It sounds like it's time to strip her room of everything but the bed, pillow and blanket. Stash your stuff in your room, and only take it out when you yourself are going to use it. Put a good deadbolt lock on your door, and keep everything, including your purse, cell phone and car keys, in there unless you are using them. Make your home as unattractive to her as you possibly can. Under no circumstances let her slip one little bit. You own the house and everything in it. You make the rules. You let her live there with the bare necessities because you don't owe her any more than that and she doesn't deserve any more than that. She should [i]absolutely[/i] understand that you are done playing by her rules. Stand up straight, take a deep breath, and tell her very firmly "no". If she doesn't stop tell her "get out of my house". If she doesn't go, call the ambulance or the police. It's BS that people with Borderline (BPD) can't change. Is it difficult? Yes. Will it ever happen if they don't see any benefit to it? No. Can they adapt? Yes. Let her figure out how to adapt her behavior to get the types of things she wants from you. She wants a computer and a phone? Stop being a screaming banshee brat or find it somewhere else. [/QUOTE]
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