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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 434524" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>burnt out</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>IF some guy (assuming pastor or youth minister) said that, he needs to clam up and back off of areas he knows nothing about. The entire world has rules, including God, so if that's putting the evil out there so people are cursed.......well, that's just about the stupidest thing I've ever heard. That's a lay the blame at someone else's feet deal. </p><p></p><p>Bottom line. Your son is 22 yrs old. He's a man, even if he chooses not to act like one. He's grown and responsible for himself. You, on the other hand have children at home that need you. </p><p></p><p>If you don't feel like bringing your grown son home is the answer, then don't do it. Don't let anyone else guilt you into feeling like you should do it. You know the situation and your son better than anyone else, only you are the one who are in the best position to judge what will work and what won't. Those that don't get it are ignorant of mental illness and the toll it takes on parents and families. And unfortunately, they're not going to understand because they've never lived the experience.</p><p></p><p>I bet there are many ways you can help your son without moving him in.......without enabling his behaviors........as long as he makes the right choices. But at 22 he should be standing on his own feet learning what it means to be a man, not looking to you to solve all his problems for him. </p><p></p><p>You do what you need to do for you and the kids still at home, and don't worry about what others think.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 434524, member: 84"] burnt out IF some guy (assuming pastor or youth minister) said that, he needs to clam up and back off of areas he knows nothing about. The entire world has rules, including God, so if that's putting the evil out there so people are cursed.......well, that's just about the stupidest thing I've ever heard. That's a lay the blame at someone else's feet deal. Bottom line. Your son is 22 yrs old. He's a man, even if he chooses not to act like one. He's grown and responsible for himself. You, on the other hand have children at home that need you. If you don't feel like bringing your grown son home is the answer, then don't do it. Don't let anyone else guilt you into feeling like you should do it. You know the situation and your son better than anyone else, only you are the one who are in the best position to judge what will work and what won't. Those that don't get it are ignorant of mental illness and the toll it takes on parents and families. And unfortunately, they're not going to understand because they've never lived the experience. I bet there are many ways you can help your son without moving him in.......without enabling his behaviors........as long as he makes the right choices. But at 22 he should be standing on his own feet learning what it means to be a man, not looking to you to solve all his problems for him. You do what you need to do for you and the kids still at home, and don't worry about what others think. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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