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14 year old "dating" 19 year old - UHGHGH!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="daralex" data-source="post: 270800" data-attributes="member: 4467"><p>Sorry this is long . . .</p><p> </p><p>So I know this will all sound crazy, but bear with me. difficult child is being homeschooled and has NO friends. I allow her to go onto a site online called Stickam where she uses a "camera" to see people she is talking to. She is gay and goes ino the lesbian chat rooms. I wake her at 11am and she has a bedtime of 1am. Reason being - these "friends" are her only means of communication with the outside universe. I also work from home from 6am-2:30pm - so I cannot start "school" until the afternoon so I don't mind her sleep schedule. It has all actually been ok <strong>until now</strong>. She met a 19 yr old online (difficult child is just turning 15) and before I knew it she tells me the 19 yr old (ADULT!) is <strong>moving here from New Mexico (we're in NY) and can she stay with us?! No job, no place to live, Uh - NOT!)</strong> So somehow she arranges for the 19 yr old to stay with someone she knows and will be supposedly moving here in June!!</p><p> </p><p><strong>Today's issue</strong> - I was woken up at 5am (I don't get up until 5:45am and was VERY upset to say he least) from her talking to the 19 yr old! I don't want to take her phone away altogether because between that and the internet it is all she has and would throw a fit the size of Texas if I did which I am trying to avoid. Our computer automatically shuts off at night - so that is safe, but just got off with the phone company and there is no way to do that with the phone. I go to bed before she does so I don't take the phone from her when I go to bed.</p><p> </p><p><strong>So question/dilemma is this</strong> - We are VERY close - I do not want to push her away from me. I have told her she is NOT allowed to "date" anyone more than 2 years older than her - this has been house rule forever. I am very worried that if 19 yr old moves here difficult child will try to sneak out to see her (yes, I am going to enable the GPS on her phone so I can track her). She does not know I can view her call log online. How do I get her to leave the 19 yr old alone? I could block her number on difficult child's phone but I'm sure 19 yr old would just call from another phone.</p><p> </p><p> I am VERY concerned and I guess am trying to figure out the <strong>least painful way to stop this insanity.</strong> I am with difficult child 24 hrs a day and I must say I am not emotionally able to deal with a huge blow out - it would be horrible for days and would push her even further towards this 19 yr old creep. Thoughts? Suggestions?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="daralex, post: 270800, member: 4467"] Sorry this is long . . . So I know this will all sound crazy, but bear with me. difficult child is being homeschooled and has NO friends. I allow her to go onto a site online called Stickam where she uses a "camera" to see people she is talking to. She is gay and goes ino the lesbian chat rooms. I wake her at 11am and she has a bedtime of 1am. Reason being - these "friends" are her only means of communication with the outside universe. I also work from home from 6am-2:30pm - so I cannot start "school" until the afternoon so I don't mind her sleep schedule. It has all actually been ok [B]until now[/B]. She met a 19 yr old online (difficult child is just turning 15) and before I knew it she tells me the 19 yr old (ADULT!) is [B]moving here from New Mexico (we're in NY) and can she stay with us?! No job, no place to live, Uh - NOT!)[/B] So somehow she arranges for the 19 yr old to stay with someone she knows and will be supposedly moving here in June!! [B]Today's issue[/B] - I was woken up at 5am (I don't get up until 5:45am and was VERY upset to say he least) from her talking to the 19 yr old! I don't want to take her phone away altogether because between that and the internet it is all she has and would throw a fit the size of Texas if I did which I am trying to avoid. Our computer automatically shuts off at night - so that is safe, but just got off with the phone company and there is no way to do that with the phone. I go to bed before she does so I don't take the phone from her when I go to bed. [B]So question/dilemma is this[/B] - We are VERY close - I do not want to push her away from me. I have told her she is NOT allowed to "date" anyone more than 2 years older than her - this has been house rule forever. I am very worried that if 19 yr old moves here difficult child will try to sneak out to see her (yes, I am going to enable the GPS on her phone so I can track her). She does not know I can view her call log online. How do I get her to leave the 19 yr old alone? I could block her number on difficult child's phone but I'm sure 19 yr old would just call from another phone. I am VERY concerned and I guess am trying to figure out the [B]least painful way to stop this insanity.[/B] I am with difficult child 24 hrs a day and I must say I am not emotionally able to deal with a huge blow out - it would be horrible for days and would push her even further towards this 19 yr old creep. Thoughts? Suggestions? [/QUOTE]
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