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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 443881" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there.</p><p>I have been in your place. I had a daughter who did drugs. Warnings: Kids may cop to using pot (and they are ALWAYs quitting (wink) ) but your son's behavior sounds like how my daughter acted when she used drugs. Sleeping all day is kind of a red flag that he is getting high at night on more than just pot and sleeping all day. Or maybe taking drugs that make him tired. Has he ever gone for help and does he have a diagnosis?</p><p></p><p>I don't know if you can kick him out at seventeen, but you can definitely do it at eighteen. Why was he out so late? I used to call the cops on my daughter if I couldn't find her after curfew and they'd bring her home. We had to put bars on her window because she crept out her window at night until we did that.</p><p></p><p>At eighteen we made her leave and she put in a frantic call to her straight arrow bro who lives in Illinois asking if she could stay there. He say yes and came to get her, but he laid down harsh rules which she followed (why couldn't she have followed OUR rules?) At any rate, she quit the drug use and other partying behaviors so there IS hope. However, at his age it pretty much has to be his decision. </p><p></p><p>He is living in YOUR house. If he is violating YOUR rules, he needs to know that he will have to find other lodgings on his eighteenth birthday. Until then, I wouldn't allow him to disturb your house that late at night without calling the cops. Kids who use drugs most often don't respond to softness...they do better with tough love.</p><p></p><p>You may want to go to an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting to talk to other parents about him in real life. That helped me a lot when I thought I was being mean and the worst mother on earth.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, and glad you found us (sorry you had to).</p><p></p><p>Others will also come along.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 443881, member: 1550"] Hi there. I have been in your place. I had a daughter who did drugs. Warnings: Kids may cop to using pot (and they are ALWAYs quitting (wink) ) but your son's behavior sounds like how my daughter acted when she used drugs. Sleeping all day is kind of a red flag that he is getting high at night on more than just pot and sleeping all day. Or maybe taking drugs that make him tired. Has he ever gone for help and does he have a diagnosis? I don't know if you can kick him out at seventeen, but you can definitely do it at eighteen. Why was he out so late? I used to call the cops on my daughter if I couldn't find her after curfew and they'd bring her home. We had to put bars on her window because she crept out her window at night until we did that. At eighteen we made her leave and she put in a frantic call to her straight arrow bro who lives in Illinois asking if she could stay there. He say yes and came to get her, but he laid down harsh rules which she followed (why couldn't she have followed OUR rules?) At any rate, she quit the drug use and other partying behaviors so there IS hope. However, at his age it pretty much has to be his decision. He is living in YOUR house. If he is violating YOUR rules, he needs to know that he will have to find other lodgings on his eighteenth birthday. Until then, I wouldn't allow him to disturb your house that late at night without calling the cops. Kids who use drugs most often don't respond to softness...they do better with tough love. You may want to go to an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting to talk to other parents about him in real life. That helped me a lot when I thought I was being mean and the worst mother on earth. Hugs, and glad you found us (sorry you had to). Others will also come along. [/QUOTE]
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