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<blockquote data-quote="round &amp; round we go" data-source="post: 443966" data-attributes="member: 12315"><p>You said he had been going to court? You weren't required to go with him? Is he on probation? If he were on probation for his arrest you could contact his probation officer when he goes off at night drinking and partying. My almost 17 year old was pulling the same things with her pot smoking, out of control behaviours and it kept going until there was actual violence in the household because of her. She would attack if I tried to keep her from going out with her druggy friends. After about seven runaway charges against her, she was sent off to her first visit in the juvenile jail and then six months of probation. Long story short she is back in there again so I am on the same rocky boat ride as you. </p><p>You can not legally kick him out at 17. Meaning you can ask him to go, or even if he goes on his own, if he were to get into any legal trouble, you can be held responsible. Set a curfew for him and remind him of it every time he steps outside the house, if he is so much as fifteen minutes late, call and report him missing/runaway. That not only will eventually land him back into the court system but more importantly it covers you in case he does something dumb while out such as getting drunk, gets in an accident etc etc. I learned this the hard way but calling the police to file a report cost nothing but your time and after a while they will even take the report over the phone (yea I kind of became a frequent customer of the local police department) These things were never covered in any of the parenting books we have all read so it's more or less, learn as you go. Have to say though, this is the best site I have ever been on. Lots of helpful advice and no one downing you for the actions of your child or you. Hang in there, sounds like your gonna have a rough ride for a while....sending ya hugs and best wishes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="round & round we go, post: 443966, member: 12315"] You said he had been going to court? You weren't required to go with him? Is he on probation? If he were on probation for his arrest you could contact his probation officer when he goes off at night drinking and partying. My almost 17 year old was pulling the same things with her pot smoking, out of control behaviours and it kept going until there was actual violence in the household because of her. She would attack if I tried to keep her from going out with her druggy friends. After about seven runaway charges against her, she was sent off to her first visit in the juvenile jail and then six months of probation. Long story short she is back in there again so I am on the same rocky boat ride as you. You can not legally kick him out at 17. Meaning you can ask him to go, or even if he goes on his own, if he were to get into any legal trouble, you can be held responsible. Set a curfew for him and remind him of it every time he steps outside the house, if he is so much as fifteen minutes late, call and report him missing/runaway. That not only will eventually land him back into the court system but more importantly it covers you in case he does something dumb while out such as getting drunk, gets in an accident etc etc. I learned this the hard way but calling the police to file a report cost nothing but your time and after a while they will even take the report over the phone (yea I kind of became a frequent customer of the local police department) These things were never covered in any of the parenting books we have all read so it's more or less, learn as you go. Have to say though, this is the best site I have ever been on. Lots of helpful advice and no one downing you for the actions of your child or you. Hang in there, sounds like your gonna have a rough ride for a while....sending ya hugs and best wishes. [/QUOTE]
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