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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 555557"><p>Lp, forgive me for replying so late. Your OP is gone but I seem to remember your story is very similar to my own. A sudden volatility, an abrupt face to the values and love if our family and a girlfriend with a permissive family only to happy to be the "cool" parents and encourage his independence.</p><p></p><p>You've gotten really good advice from my board sisters and I will second it heartily. </p><p></p><p>I know the feeling of your world being upside down & unfamiliar. I know the anxiety of needing to "right " it, fix it, head off the crisis. That something immediate needs to happen, that this situation is about to come to a head, that you have to save him from going off the edge of a cliff. And I agree that you need to be ready.</p><p></p><p>But you also need to be patient. My son walked out over a year ago. Quit school, clung to his girlfriend & her family, threw us into a tailspin. Like you, I found this board, got good advice & made well researched plans for every contingency. Every contingency but treading water. </p><p></p><p>And treading water is what we are doing. The worst didn't come to pass. Neither did the best. </p><p>I was ready for sink or swim and we've done neither. We've had some low points and positive signs. I don't know where our situation is heading but I am no longer on edge awaiting the sudden call to action. I am sorry to ramble but I want you to know that sometimes you have to let things unfold at their own pace. And you need to give him the space to miss you. </p><p></p><p>{{{hugs}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 555557"] Lp, forgive me for replying so late. Your OP is gone but I seem to remember your story is very similar to my own. A sudden volatility, an abrupt face to the values and love if our family and a girlfriend with a permissive family only to happy to be the "cool" parents and encourage his independence. You've gotten really good advice from my board sisters and I will second it heartily. I know the feeling of your world being upside down & unfamiliar. I know the anxiety of needing to "right " it, fix it, head off the crisis. That something immediate needs to happen, that this situation is about to come to a head, that you have to save him from going off the edge of a cliff. And I agree that you need to be ready. But you also need to be patient. My son walked out over a year ago. Quit school, clung to his girlfriend & her family, threw us into a tailspin. Like you, I found this board, got good advice & made well researched plans for every contingency. Every contingency but treading water. And treading water is what we are doing. The worst didn't come to pass. Neither did the best. I was ready for sink or swim and we've done neither. We've had some low points and positive signs. I don't know where our situation is heading but I am no longer on edge awaiting the sudden call to action. I am sorry to ramble but I want you to know that sometimes you have to let things unfold at their own pace. And you need to give him the space to miss you. {{{hugs}}} [/QUOTE]
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