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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 582657" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi and welcome. I am going to encourage you to seek out a full comprehensive evaluation too. Not just a psychologist interview etc. We are talking about a long evaluation that often takes a couple of days or a few hours at a time over a few weeks. (eight to twelve hours total on average). A neuropsychologist (neuropsychologist) evaluation helps you sort things out. Helps to see how his brain is wired and how that is connected to his behaviors.</p><p></p><p>I agree that this is likely multi-layered. to say he is "refusing" to do something may be inaccurate. He may NOT have the skills to do better at this point.</p><p></p><p>In the USA there are laws that protect children who have special needs, and having recurrent behavioral problems which interfere with your child's (and often it can impact other children) days at school means he needs accommodations. Regardless of the diagnosis. </p><p></p><p>Look, we can all do better and yes, sometimes choices we have made in the past add to our children's problems. However, from your description, your son sounds like a child who really does have other challenges beyond what he was exposed to. Guilt at this point is going to be a wasted emotion (and most of us really do GET IT so I am not saying I dont understand) and what is needed now is to ask for those private evaluations in the medical community (you may have to be insistent and persistent to get it done! Dont ask, tell them this is what you want for your son, period....another way to get it done is to do a team evaluation for example through a developmental pediatrician who has other professionals help administer the testing including motor, language/communication, ability, adaptive developmental skills, overall developmental level, etc.) Just make sure it is a comprehensive evaluation, not just an adhd evaluation or a psychiatric evaluation. if at all possible. </p><p></p><p>medications are a scary thing, and it is wise to be cautious. But a lifetime of suffering if there is truly a disorder that could be helped is sometimes not worth the trade off. Just take in all the information and then make the decision as you put a plan together to help your son.</p><p></p><p>After requesting the school evaluation (in writing) and hopefully getting an IEP (individual education plan) developed, the law says that any behavior plan must be positive meaning that it uses positive methods to develop appropriate skills not punishment for what they do wrong. Even if you stop a "bad" behavior, what are they going to replace it with if they dont know what to do better?? Your son most likely does not want to react this way. He has challenges that result in impulsive behaviors and not being able to communicate his feelings or needs/wants in a better way. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there, it is a long road and you can do it. Hope you check in and let us know how it is going. WELCOME, you are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 582657, member: 12886"] Hi and welcome. I am going to encourage you to seek out a full comprehensive evaluation too. Not just a psychologist interview etc. We are talking about a long evaluation that often takes a couple of days or a few hours at a time over a few weeks. (eight to twelve hours total on average). A neuropsychologist (neuropsychologist) evaluation helps you sort things out. Helps to see how his brain is wired and how that is connected to his behaviors. I agree that this is likely multi-layered. to say he is "refusing" to do something may be inaccurate. He may NOT have the skills to do better at this point. In the USA there are laws that protect children who have special needs, and having recurrent behavioral problems which interfere with your child's (and often it can impact other children) days at school means he needs accommodations. Regardless of the diagnosis. Look, we can all do better and yes, sometimes choices we have made in the past add to our children's problems. However, from your description, your son sounds like a child who really does have other challenges beyond what he was exposed to. Guilt at this point is going to be a wasted emotion (and most of us really do GET IT so I am not saying I dont understand) and what is needed now is to ask for those private evaluations in the medical community (you may have to be insistent and persistent to get it done! Dont ask, tell them this is what you want for your son, period....another way to get it done is to do a team evaluation for example through a developmental pediatrician who has other professionals help administer the testing including motor, language/communication, ability, adaptive developmental skills, overall developmental level, etc.) Just make sure it is a comprehensive evaluation, not just an adhd evaluation or a psychiatric evaluation. if at all possible. medications are a scary thing, and it is wise to be cautious. But a lifetime of suffering if there is truly a disorder that could be helped is sometimes not worth the trade off. Just take in all the information and then make the decision as you put a plan together to help your son. After requesting the school evaluation (in writing) and hopefully getting an IEP (individual education plan) developed, the law says that any behavior plan must be positive meaning that it uses positive methods to develop appropriate skills not punishment for what they do wrong. Even if you stop a "bad" behavior, what are they going to replace it with if they dont know what to do better?? Your son most likely does not want to react this way. He has challenges that result in impulsive behaviors and not being able to communicate his feelings or needs/wants in a better way. Hang in there, it is a long road and you can do it. Hope you check in and let us know how it is going. WELCOME, you are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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