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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 564081" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Sharon, I'm so sorry you're hurting. I hope your nose is feeling better today, and that there was no permanent damage.</p><p></p><p>As for easy child/difficult child, I'm with Susie. What she did to you was assault, pure and simple. She should be made to feel the consequences of that, in a way that brings home to her how serious it is.</p><p>If she had done that to a stranger, she would likely be dealing with the police and court system. Just because you're her mother doesn't make it any different.</p><p></p><p>I can understand not wanting to go the legal route, but she needs to feel this in a way that's meaningful to her. Expressing your pain to her will likely cause her to just lash out at you again. Her consequences need to be in her currency.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what will work with your easy child/difficult child, but there has to be something.</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child attempted to get physically violent with me many years ago, aside from the physical confrontation we had at the time (it wasn't pretty, but he was still light enough that I could pick him up and move him where I needed him to be), I didn't speak with or interact with him for months other than the bare minimum. He was limited to his room, the bathroom and the kitchen for a couple of weeks -- and only at times when I wasn't using them. He ate all his meals in the dining room, apart from the rest of the family for those weeks as well. If he wasn't prepared to treat me the way a mother should be treated, I was going to show him what it was like not to have a mother. </p><p></p><p>His behaviour has been nowhere near perfect, but he has never gotten physical with me since.</p><p></p><p>Many gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 564081, member: 3907"] Sharon, I'm so sorry you're hurting. I hope your nose is feeling better today, and that there was no permanent damage. As for easy child/difficult child, I'm with Susie. What she did to you was assault, pure and simple. She should be made to feel the consequences of that, in a way that brings home to her how serious it is. If she had done that to a stranger, she would likely be dealing with the police and court system. Just because you're her mother doesn't make it any different. I can understand not wanting to go the legal route, but she needs to feel this in a way that's meaningful to her. Expressing your pain to her will likely cause her to just lash out at you again. Her consequences need to be in her currency. I'm not sure what will work with your easy child/difficult child, but there has to be something. When my difficult child attempted to get physically violent with me many years ago, aside from the physical confrontation we had at the time (it wasn't pretty, but he was still light enough that I could pick him up and move him where I needed him to be), I didn't speak with or interact with him for months other than the bare minimum. He was limited to his room, the bathroom and the kitchen for a couple of weeks -- and only at times when I wasn't using them. He ate all his meals in the dining room, apart from the rest of the family for those weeks as well. If he wasn't prepared to treat me the way a mother should be treated, I was going to show him what it was like not to have a mother. His behaviour has been nowhere near perfect, but he has never gotten physical with me since. Many gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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