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2 great days.. then... blow up
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<blockquote data-quote="Pookybear66" data-source="post: 201491" data-attributes="member: 5957"><p>Good work Woof! Keep reading the book as this is the exact thing it deals with.</p><p>He had meatloaf in his head and got sidelined with irrational thinking. Then he got interested in buggy as way of coping (for them I've noticed doing a fun distracting thing so they are not frustrated with not getting their way). When you took the buggy away he got frustrated again. Then calmed down when in it but that got boring so he wanted out for "fun thing" again-running.</p><p>When you caught him for running in store you removed him. that wasn't any fun at all so his frustration peaked and he became irrational because (in his mind) he didn't have any other "fun thing" choices. I hope this is making sense?</p><p>The next step was compromise-sort of talking him down off the roof of his frustration if you will. Your SO did this and for the most part no harm done.</p><p></p><p>I suggest next time you review the "rules" on the way to the store. Yes he already knows them but this way it's fresh in his mind. Tell him you are going to the store and will not tolerate running around the store or pushing the cart out of site. Then state it positively-You must stay where I can see you or we leave the store. Then follow through. It is always easier said then done. It is always about compromise with these difficult child's as they can't reason well for themselves. But they soon learn what buttons they can push and what rewards they will get. Just remember also to pick your battles. Safety is important-who pushes the cart is not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Pookybear66, post: 201491, member: 5957"] Good work Woof! Keep reading the book as this is the exact thing it deals with. He had meatloaf in his head and got sidelined with irrational thinking. Then he got interested in buggy as way of coping (for them I've noticed doing a fun distracting thing so they are not frustrated with not getting their way). When you took the buggy away he got frustrated again. Then calmed down when in it but that got boring so he wanted out for "fun thing" again-running. When you caught him for running in store you removed him. that wasn't any fun at all so his frustration peaked and he became irrational because (in his mind) he didn't have any other "fun thing" choices. I hope this is making sense? The next step was compromise-sort of talking him down off the roof of his frustration if you will. Your SO did this and for the most part no harm done. I suggest next time you review the "rules" on the way to the store. Yes he already knows them but this way it's fresh in his mind. Tell him you are going to the store and will not tolerate running around the store or pushing the cart out of site. Then state it positively-You must stay where I can see you or we leave the store. Then follow through. It is always easier said then done. It is always about compromise with these difficult child's as they can't reason well for themselves. But they soon learn what buttons they can push and what rewards they will get. Just remember also to pick your battles. Safety is important-who pushes the cart is not. [/QUOTE]
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