My wife and I have been been faced with a difficult decision. Our 20 year old son whom lives at home, goes to school full time and works full time, continues to use and sell drugs. We've read so many story's on this forum of parents who have children with drug related disorders, lazy, don't want to work nor go to school. Our son doesn't quite exhibit all of those behaviors. About 1 1/2 years ago we discovered he was using and selling drugs (Marijuana to be specific). We established some ground rules and consequences for not adhering to them such as removal from our vehicle insurance policy, stop funding his tuition and finally eviction. We also implemented random drug testing. Things seemed to be going ok up until last August when he came up positive on a random UA. We explained to him again that we wouldn't tolerate drug use and that he was a risk to us being on our insurance policy. We removed him from ours and he obtained his own a week later which cost him significantly more. That was in August of 2012, again, things seemed to be going ok up until a couple weeks ago when we noticed him changing; his personality was becoming rough and he was standoffish and secretive. All of these signs we'd seen before and raised the red flag. So we decided to search his room and discovered a decent size bag of Marijuana buds, a pipe and a box of baggies.
We both feel we must stick to the rules and consequences we laid out and the time has come for him to move out since he fails to follow the rules we have established for our household. The difficult part is that he's not lazy, he's a hard worker and is only 4 months away from his aircraft maintenance certification he's been working on for the past 20 months. Our family is not struggling to make ends meet, we have what we need and even things we want. We don't throw money at our children as we believe they need to earn it...however, the route he has chosen to earn extra income is not only unacceptable to us, it's against the law.
We would love to hear your opinions and suggestions.
Sincerely,
Two very concerned parents
We both feel we must stick to the rules and consequences we laid out and the time has come for him to move out since he fails to follow the rules we have established for our household. The difficult part is that he's not lazy, he's a hard worker and is only 4 months away from his aircraft maintenance certification he's been working on for the past 20 months. Our family is not struggling to make ends meet, we have what we need and even things we want. We don't throw money at our children as we believe they need to earn it...however, the route he has chosen to earn extra income is not only unacceptable to us, it's against the law.
We would love to hear your opinions and suggestions.
Sincerely,
Two very concerned parents