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23 year old son - I kicked him out when he was 18
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 694344" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Sea, first of all just breathe. This is not an emergency, he just wants you to think it is. That is usually why we get calls at 4 AM, when we are discombobulated and vulnerable.</p><p></p><p>He didn't know what to do or where to go when he got the kitten, or when he asked you to hold his belongings for him. Why all of a sudden, at 4 AM, is he in panic mode? Did a meteor hit the apartment?</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry to be facetious, or cruel. But nothing has changed. He wants you to rescue him. It isn't safe for you or good for him if you do.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion he is ramping up and will probably ramp it up even more until either he gets what he wants or he sees he isn't going to get it from you.</p><p></p><p>It helped me to have a list of places to go when we would get these sorts of calls. That made me feel I wasn't leaving him without help, I just wasn't going to be the one to provide it. There are lots of resources out there, and my guess is he has many other resources you don't know about.</p><p></p><p>I know how incredibly difficult and gut-wrenching this is, Sea. Unfortunately, it might get worse before it gets better. I think you should stay strong and tell him he must find his way out of this one. Helping him with lodging or money is not the solution, other than to soothe your heart for a little while.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 694344, member: 17720"] Sea, first of all just breathe. This is not an emergency, he just wants you to think it is. That is usually why we get calls at 4 AM, when we are discombobulated and vulnerable. He didn't know what to do or where to go when he got the kitten, or when he asked you to hold his belongings for him. Why all of a sudden, at 4 AM, is he in panic mode? Did a meteor hit the apartment? I'm sorry to be facetious, or cruel. But nothing has changed. He wants you to rescue him. It isn't safe for you or good for him if you do. In my opinion he is ramping up and will probably ramp it up even more until either he gets what he wants or he sees he isn't going to get it from you. It helped me to have a list of places to go when we would get these sorts of calls. That made me feel I wasn't leaving him without help, I just wasn't going to be the one to provide it. There are lots of resources out there, and my guess is he has many other resources you don't know about. I know how incredibly difficult and gut-wrenching this is, Sea. Unfortunately, it might get worse before it gets better. I think you should stay strong and tell him he must find his way out of this one. Helping him with lodging or money is not the solution, other than to soothe your heart for a little while. [/QUOTE]
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