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25 year old and 30 year old boys still at home.
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 521456" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Michael,</p><p>Welcome. I'm so very sorry for all the trouble you and your wife are going through. There are many experienced and helpful people on this board who I am sure will offer you good counsel.</p><p>It seems like you are a very caring father, who survived a miserable childhood. I know you don't want your children to feel the abandonment and abuse you endured as a child, but unfortunately, your sons are exploiting your good intentions and are holding you and your wife hostage in your own home. Bath salts are extremely dangerous, and can cause violence and hallucinations. Your substance abusing son is emotionally and physically abusing you, and stealing from you. Your other son may not be a substance abuser, but he verbally abuses you and your wife, and contributes nothing to the household. By allowing this to occur, you are fostering an environment of abuse and telegraphing to your sons that this is OK. </p><p>You have so many things to work out; have you gone for therapy at all, or would you consider it? You need to find your sanity and your strength so you can be the rightful head of your household. Your kids are running the show in your own home. If you live in an apartment, as opposed to a home, could you and your wife just move out - the two of you? Could you stay with a relative just for a short while, just to be safe? Would you consider getting your locks changed, or would that enrage your son even more? You need to get you and your wife to safety, as physical abuse only escalates. Whatever they say to make you feel bad, or to make you feel responsible is uncalled for and a total manipulation. Children are to respect and honor their parents - no matter what. They will use you until you have nothing left, and that will not change their behavior, or help them one bit in the long run. I'm not kidding - I would get an order of protection and go far, far away. They are, I'm sure, bigger and stronger than you are, and your older son has already been violent. You are not doing him or your other son any favors by being patient - you are in danger and must protect yourself and your wife.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 521456, member: 13882"] Michael, Welcome. I'm so very sorry for all the trouble you and your wife are going through. There are many experienced and helpful people on this board who I am sure will offer you good counsel. It seems like you are a very caring father, who survived a miserable childhood. I know you don't want your children to feel the abandonment and abuse you endured as a child, but unfortunately, your sons are exploiting your good intentions and are holding you and your wife hostage in your own home. Bath salts are extremely dangerous, and can cause violence and hallucinations. Your substance abusing son is emotionally and physically abusing you, and stealing from you. Your other son may not be a substance abuser, but he verbally abuses you and your wife, and contributes nothing to the household. By allowing this to occur, you are fostering an environment of abuse and telegraphing to your sons that this is OK. You have so many things to work out; have you gone for therapy at all, or would you consider it? You need to find your sanity and your strength so you can be the rightful head of your household. Your kids are running the show in your own home. If you live in an apartment, as opposed to a home, could you and your wife just move out - the two of you? Could you stay with a relative just for a short while, just to be safe? Would you consider getting your locks changed, or would that enrage your son even more? You need to get you and your wife to safety, as physical abuse only escalates. Whatever they say to make you feel bad, or to make you feel responsible is uncalled for and a total manipulation. Children are to respect and honor their parents - no matter what. They will use you until you have nothing left, and that will not change their behavior, or help them one bit in the long run. I'm not kidding - I would get an order of protection and go far, far away. They are, I'm sure, bigger and stronger than you are, and your older son has already been violent. You are not doing him or your other son any favors by being patient - you are in danger and must protect yourself and your wife. [/QUOTE]
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