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25 yr old son living at home, lies, steals, sneaks and cant keep a job
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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 686220" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>Yeah, it sounds like he has legitimate mental health issues apart from the drugs. And that the drugs are only making the situation worse. Meaning he probably would improve without any of the drugs, but I don't think that would be enough. I am sure there are ways he can benefit from the pot, but he kind of lost the ability to use it medicinally. If he didn't have addiction issues, it would probably help more than it hurt, but he is a drug addict, and pot is a mind altering substance. The benefits will always be outweighed by the negatives. It sounds like he does need to be medicated, though. Under direct supervision, and not with recreational drugs. SRRI's, or something like it. While I think that way too many people are medicated, there are those that really do need it, and benefit greatly from it. I was on Zoloft as a teenager. Stopped after Mom died, but it helped while I was on it. I probably should have remained on it, in hindsight....</p><p></p><p>Monologuing can be helpful, but only when you actually KNOW that it is a monologue, not a dialogue. As long as he is completey aware of this, I don't see what it could really hurt. Kind of like keeping a journal, just out loud. If he starts working himself up over it, you may need to start worrying about it. But, if it is just him vocalizing the normal stuff we all do in our minds, it's probably fine. I don't suffer from all the same issues he has, but I have dealt with manic depression, and obsessive compulsive disorders. And the standard impulse control issues all addicts have. Like I said, we stop developing when we pick up daily drug use. So, while I am 25 years old, I am basically 18 or 19. It was worse for me, since I stopped being parented at 16. I don't have some of the very basic skills that my peers have. Even before I was on my own, I never had a male role model. Nobody ever taught me how to shave. Nobody ever taught me how to change the oil in the car, or anything like that. Nobody ever taught me good ways to deal with my issues. I just winged it, really. These is all things I struggle with right now. And I can tell you that NOT addressing the issues is a bad idea. I think these are things you may want to talk to your son about. In a calm, honest, and open manner. When I first got together with my aunt, I never really opened up to her. She would try, but it was easier to shrug it off, and say that I was normal. It took a long time, but I slowly did open up. Deeper and deeper every time. She was amazed that I was still alive, and not in prison. I always felt better having talked to her. And your son will, too. That said, he really does need some professional help. I am not a doctor, and I am not identical to your son. Is he completely against the idea of any counseling?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 686220, member: 20267"] Yeah, it sounds like he has legitimate mental health issues apart from the drugs. And that the drugs are only making the situation worse. Meaning he probably would improve without any of the drugs, but I don't think that would be enough. I am sure there are ways he can benefit from the pot, but he kind of lost the ability to use it medicinally. If he didn't have addiction issues, it would probably help more than it hurt, but he is a drug addict, and pot is a mind altering substance. The benefits will always be outweighed by the negatives. It sounds like he does need to be medicated, though. Under direct supervision, and not with recreational drugs. SRRI's, or something like it. While I think that way too many people are medicated, there are those that really do need it, and benefit greatly from it. I was on Zoloft as a teenager. Stopped after Mom died, but it helped while I was on it. I probably should have remained on it, in hindsight.... Monologuing can be helpful, but only when you actually KNOW that it is a monologue, not a dialogue. As long as he is completey aware of this, I don't see what it could really hurt. Kind of like keeping a journal, just out loud. If he starts working himself up over it, you may need to start worrying about it. But, if it is just him vocalizing the normal stuff we all do in our minds, it's probably fine. I don't suffer from all the same issues he has, but I have dealt with manic depression, and obsessive compulsive disorders. And the standard impulse control issues all addicts have. Like I said, we stop developing when we pick up daily drug use. So, while I am 25 years old, I am basically 18 or 19. It was worse for me, since I stopped being parented at 16. I don't have some of the very basic skills that my peers have. Even before I was on my own, I never had a male role model. Nobody ever taught me how to shave. Nobody ever taught me how to change the oil in the car, or anything like that. Nobody ever taught me good ways to deal with my issues. I just winged it, really. These is all things I struggle with right now. And I can tell you that NOT addressing the issues is a bad idea. I think these are things you may want to talk to your son about. In a calm, honest, and open manner. When I first got together with my aunt, I never really opened up to her. She would try, but it was easier to shrug it off, and say that I was normal. It took a long time, but I slowly did open up. Deeper and deeper every time. She was amazed that I was still alive, and not in prison. I always felt better having talked to her. And your son will, too. That said, he really does need some professional help. I am not a doctor, and I am not identical to your son. Is he completely against the idea of any counseling? [/QUOTE]
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