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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 212791" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Totoro: my heart goes out to you. My mother was manic. It is a nightmare.</p><p>And I hope you have a plan for her to be following because the manic will manipulate and keep the attention on themselves and their whim and wish and it never ends from their end. </p><p>She is seven? You have to set the pattern and you have to make the firm rules. And you can do it softly and slowly as you introduce what will be but learning to slow down and get into bed and stay there are not optional.</p><p></p><p>I used reading as the tool to get the peace and make the pattern. The whole house has to switch into the prepare to bed mode. Lower lights soothing music, bath time, quiet in the room time...maybe put the dolls to bed..or the toys may have to come out of the room......choose a book a long chapter book and read it softly so she has to listen. With mutiple bedrooms sitting in the hall,perhaps, with only the one reading lamp on. start with one chapter and if that goes well volunteer to read more than one the next night IF they go to bed say ten minutes earlier.</p><p>We got to 2 1/2 hours and stayed there for years.</p><p>THen no getting up til morning. No talk. </p><p></p><p>It is totally on you. And you can do it. She will like it. She gets undivided attention for an exstended period of time. It is relaxing.</p><p></p><p>When I made a chore chart for my son a bit younger than that when it came to reward what he wanted was my time reading. I did it anyway but he liked having control over when and where for extra.</p><p></p><p>it does not fix them to learn to relax and recieve a massage or get the gentle soft touch as they lay to relax to sleep it repatterns their system to relax. Manics are not into it. They do need to control and do this for themselves and they need the support to learn it. Do not give up or give in.</p><p>When do you sleep anyway?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 212791, member: 6271"] Totoro: my heart goes out to you. My mother was manic. It is a nightmare. And I hope you have a plan for her to be following because the manic will manipulate and keep the attention on themselves and their whim and wish and it never ends from their end. She is seven? You have to set the pattern and you have to make the firm rules. And you can do it softly and slowly as you introduce what will be but learning to slow down and get into bed and stay there are not optional. I used reading as the tool to get the peace and make the pattern. The whole house has to switch into the prepare to bed mode. Lower lights soothing music, bath time, quiet in the room time...maybe put the dolls to bed..or the toys may have to come out of the room......choose a book a long chapter book and read it softly so she has to listen. With mutiple bedrooms sitting in the hall,perhaps, with only the one reading lamp on. start with one chapter and if that goes well volunteer to read more than one the next night IF they go to bed say ten minutes earlier. We got to 2 1/2 hours and stayed there for years. THen no getting up til morning. No talk. It is totally on you. And you can do it. She will like it. She gets undivided attention for an exstended period of time. It is relaxing. When I made a chore chart for my son a bit younger than that when it came to reward what he wanted was my time reading. I did it anyway but he liked having control over when and where for extra. it does not fix them to learn to relax and recieve a massage or get the gentle soft touch as they lay to relax to sleep it repatterns their system to relax. Manics are not into it. They do need to control and do this for themselves and they need the support to learn it. Do not give up or give in. When do you sleep anyway? [/QUOTE]
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