Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
5 year old, possible adhd, destructive behavior...help!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 445708" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, if his birthmother consumed alcohol when she was pregnant, he could suffer from fetal alcohol affects. Plus if he was neglected by her or his birthfather or your hub or both or tossed around a lot...that's a recipe for attachment disorder. LOve doesn't help kids who have attachment disorder, in fact it can scare them because they have coped by only trusting one person...themselves. They really don't have much of a choice, but the behaviors are often very difficult. There are attachment therapies, which I've never used so I don't know how well they work.</p><p></p><p>Alcohol consumption during pregnancy is always such a tragic problem. Even a little alcohol can cause big issues (depends on the child). </p><p></p><p>Dad in prison, depending on why, at least points to some sort of mental instability or antisocial behavior...both can be passed along too. Adopted kids, for example, who have birthparents in prison also tend to end up in prison at a higher rate (learned this from all my adopting and exposure to adopted kids...read about it/social workers have told me etc). This applies even if they were never raised by the birthparent. Obviously a good environment helps, but it sounds like this little one had a very difficult time until he came to you. And he still shares his time with bm and her many moves.</p><p></p><p>I would take him to a neuropsychologist to find out as much as you can. If you feel he is dangerous to your daughter, however, it's smart not to have her home when he is there. The child that we adopted who had attachment disorder and probably some alcohol affects had to leave. He was VERY dangerous to my other kids. That doesn't mean YOUR SS is a threat, but I'd keep an eye on him when he is with other kids and I'd try to find out if he has any lingering affects from his prebirth alcohol exposure and h is early life in general.</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted and good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 445708, member: 1550"] Well, if his birthmother consumed alcohol when she was pregnant, he could suffer from fetal alcohol affects. Plus if he was neglected by her or his birthfather or your hub or both or tossed around a lot...that's a recipe for attachment disorder. LOve doesn't help kids who have attachment disorder, in fact it can scare them because they have coped by only trusting one person...themselves. They really don't have much of a choice, but the behaviors are often very difficult. There are attachment therapies, which I've never used so I don't know how well they work. Alcohol consumption during pregnancy is always such a tragic problem. Even a little alcohol can cause big issues (depends on the child). Dad in prison, depending on why, at least points to some sort of mental instability or antisocial behavior...both can be passed along too. Adopted kids, for example, who have birthparents in prison also tend to end up in prison at a higher rate (learned this from all my adopting and exposure to adopted kids...read about it/social workers have told me etc). This applies even if they were never raised by the birthparent. Obviously a good environment helps, but it sounds like this little one had a very difficult time until he came to you. And he still shares his time with bm and her many moves. I would take him to a neuropsychologist to find out as much as you can. If you feel he is dangerous to your daughter, however, it's smart not to have her home when he is there. The child that we adopted who had attachment disorder and probably some alcohol affects had to leave. He was VERY dangerous to my other kids. That doesn't mean YOUR SS is a threat, but I'd keep an eye on him when he is with other kids and I'd try to find out if he has any lingering affects from his prebirth alcohol exposure and h is early life in general. Keep us posted and good luck! [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
5 year old, possible adhd, destructive behavior...help!
Top