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<blockquote data-quote="Confused" data-source="post: 625878"><p>You did the right thing <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I of course would rather care for my grandfather or other family just by family but I am willing to accept help from outsiders. Its my neighbors that say no outsiders and my grandfather has one caretaker couple hours twice week but wont hire anyone else again ( he actually needs full care now anyways so all day and night). I wasnt saying I was going to give up my kids.. I was just saying that would be the only way to care for him 24/7, but I wont do that. He wants me with my family at my house but yet always calls me back.</p><p></p><p>My grandpa can be nice but when he is in lecture/putdown blaming mode yikes! I do get the kids out of the room/ house when it starts. He says" when you find a job we will talk about hiring someone again" well... meanwhile he wants me to look but gets mad when Im gone! But.. my Aunt said he has to realize how it is on his own without extra help.. just go look and get the job.. then.. we deal with it. Well, then I will be blamed if my grandpa falls or something because Im not there! But.. I thought about it and I have to take that chance.. Im going to record my grandpa saying go... then getting mad Im gone. I tried telling him full care at his home plus us, will be cheaper than the Nursing home if he doesnt want to go. Im going to also talk to his Dr that has been recommending live in care and get his written statement of my grandfathers refusal so Im not completely blamed when I leave him alone. </p><p></p><p>Im always working on figuring it out.. but coming to answer/ solution haha!!! Thank you <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Confused, post: 625878"] You did the right thing :) I of course would rather care for my grandfather or other family just by family but I am willing to accept help from outsiders. Its my neighbors that say no outsiders and my grandfather has one caretaker couple hours twice week but wont hire anyone else again ( he actually needs full care now anyways so all day and night). I wasnt saying I was going to give up my kids.. I was just saying that would be the only way to care for him 24/7, but I wont do that. He wants me with my family at my house but yet always calls me back. My grandpa can be nice but when he is in lecture/putdown blaming mode yikes! I do get the kids out of the room/ house when it starts. He says" when you find a job we will talk about hiring someone again" well... meanwhile he wants me to look but gets mad when Im gone! But.. my Aunt said he has to realize how it is on his own without extra help.. just go look and get the job.. then.. we deal with it. Well, then I will be blamed if my grandpa falls or something because Im not there! But.. I thought about it and I have to take that chance.. Im going to record my grandpa saying go... then getting mad Im gone. I tried telling him full care at his home plus us, will be cheaper than the Nursing home if he doesnt want to go. Im going to also talk to his Dr that has been recommending live in care and get his written statement of my grandfathers refusal so Im not completely blamed when I leave him alone. Im always working on figuring it out.. but coming to answer/ solution haha!!! Thank you :) [/QUOTE]
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