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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 438003" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>At your son's age it is really hard to know what's normal kid's stuff and what's due to his difference. In his case, he also has to deal with the exposure to different cultures (yours and France). Also try to keep in mind that there is no single parenting technique that works with every kids. You might not be naturally super authoritarian but, on its own, it does not make you a lousy parent. If you feel your son might benefit a little bit more stricter rules (and I'm talking about what YOU think, not everyone else), maybe try for a month or so. You can explain the change in simple words to him "rules are going to change a bit because Mommy is trying to make our family life more peaceful" or something you believe he can understand. You might have to work on it and put a lot of thought in it since it is not your natural technique. Myself, as a typical french parent I suppose, I tend to be very strict, which works great for my oldest but sometimes not so much for difficult child. I sometimes have to "relax" my expectation. What makes you a great parent is that you're ready to reflect on your action and, if necessary, make adjustment. That's very good, but don't forget that sometimes you just have to ignore people's comments. They are not walking in your shoes and simply have no clue.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 438003, member: 11847"] At your son's age it is really hard to know what's normal kid's stuff and what's due to his difference. In his case, he also has to deal with the exposure to different cultures (yours and France). Also try to keep in mind that there is no single parenting technique that works with every kids. You might not be naturally super authoritarian but, on its own, it does not make you a lousy parent. If you feel your son might benefit a little bit more stricter rules (and I'm talking about what YOU think, not everyone else), maybe try for a month or so. You can explain the change in simple words to him "rules are going to change a bit because Mommy is trying to make our family life more peaceful" or something you believe he can understand. You might have to work on it and put a lot of thought in it since it is not your natural technique. Myself, as a typical french parent I suppose, I tend to be very strict, which works great for my oldest but sometimes not so much for difficult child. I sometimes have to "relax" my expectation. What makes you a great parent is that you're ready to reflect on your action and, if necessary, make adjustment. That's very good, but don't forget that sometimes you just have to ignore people's comments. They are not walking in your shoes and simply have no clue. [/QUOTE]
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