my son who is 6yrs7mnths old now has always been naughty...hyper active ..lazy to study...not very disciplined...
he has been restless in school earlier. But now is ok...sits in class..listens..he is good at studies..
but when it comes to homework is is ok with 2 pages. More than that he doesn't want to sit...
he is not violent...but when we go out for shopping..for a party or to someone's house or when we have guests , he becomes very hyper( kind of over excited and screams and jumps. And bites the food directly from the plate..etc)
when we go to restaurants or even at home , despite teaching him so many times he eats in a very shabby way..its been years..but doesn't want to learn..no effort is taken on his side..even for putting on his own shoes, socks ,clothes he doesn't want to take any initiative..he is too lazy to do all that..and to get ready for school..he is eating my head everyday...he is hyper active( jumping,screaming even talking very loud)..but too lazy to do many of his tasks..
the most recent ones are he would start crying for each and everything and doesn't realise his mistakes..he always thinks we hit him or scold him just like that. And even when we explain he doesn't want to realise. Basically from morning till night he disobeys us for multiple things. Doesn't do his tasks. Cries for each and everything. argues . adamant...disrespectful. and sad because he feels its only us who is doing mistakes and he doesn't care to correct them..
even when we call he responds only after ten times..
doesn't obey about the play rules..
above all this he has been treated for his tonsils which gives him frequent fevers and illness since 3 1/2.
he is also a very fussy eater(prefers only junk which I give very less) and is very thin and short for his age(15.4kgs and 112cms).
he doesn't listen to us when we tell him something..it takes time for him to focus and get what we said(atleast the words that we speak)..and he find it necessary to follow rules..or says the other person is wrong.
he does accept sometimes that he has done a mistake..but this keeps repeating..
above all of this my husband is very moody. Short tempered and gets irritated very easily...very negative. discourages all of us.. Teases me all the time. Gets irritated so quickly on small issues( especially with my sons behaviour) and has it in his mind and is irritated for more than a day for that. And passes that mood to the whole family
he abuses me with unpleasant words. And I am always scared ..expecting something or the other to burst out anytime..I am scared to smile..i also have a 2 yrs. old daughter who even at this age is very good and disciplined. I am sure she is fine..
my husband when he is in a good state tells me that he as a child also was very lazy(even now) and also hyper. He cannot get along with people quickly( I help him to get along)..very short tempered since childhood..
I also had a very sad childhood(my dad was a sadist and my mom got separated )..but I and my mom are extremely positive about everything. But now I have started becoming negative, irritated and short tempered ..
I am in a very bad state that I cannot be happy even for one complete day. And my husbands mood and mind is passing negative energy and how much ever I try , I am losing control and react to my kids. And with a son like mine who need care and help I have started losing hope and having negative thoughts..almost in a depressed state..
all I worry is about my kids....just want to live for them..
I felt if I solve my sons issues I can almost solve most of my problems.
I feel trapped in the net of life..
.
PLEASE HELP at the earliest...( by the way I have never consulted any doctor or counsellor for this..and I will surely not be able to do it as my husband wont agree)
he has been restless in school earlier. But now is ok...sits in class..listens..he is good at studies..
but when it comes to homework is is ok with 2 pages. More than that he doesn't want to sit...
he is not violent...but when we go out for shopping..for a party or to someone's house or when we have guests , he becomes very hyper( kind of over excited and screams and jumps. And bites the food directly from the plate..etc)
when we go to restaurants or even at home , despite teaching him so many times he eats in a very shabby way..its been years..but doesn't want to learn..no effort is taken on his side..even for putting on his own shoes, socks ,clothes he doesn't want to take any initiative..he is too lazy to do all that..and to get ready for school..he is eating my head everyday...he is hyper active( jumping,screaming even talking very loud)..but too lazy to do many of his tasks..
the most recent ones are he would start crying for each and everything and doesn't realise his mistakes..he always thinks we hit him or scold him just like that. And even when we explain he doesn't want to realise. Basically from morning till night he disobeys us for multiple things. Doesn't do his tasks. Cries for each and everything. argues . adamant...disrespectful. and sad because he feels its only us who is doing mistakes and he doesn't care to correct them..
even when we call he responds only after ten times..
doesn't obey about the play rules..
above all this he has been treated for his tonsils which gives him frequent fevers and illness since 3 1/2.
he is also a very fussy eater(prefers only junk which I give very less) and is very thin and short for his age(15.4kgs and 112cms).
he doesn't listen to us when we tell him something..it takes time for him to focus and get what we said(atleast the words that we speak)..and he find it necessary to follow rules..or says the other person is wrong.
he does accept sometimes that he has done a mistake..but this keeps repeating..
above all of this my husband is very moody. Short tempered and gets irritated very easily...very negative. discourages all of us.. Teases me all the time. Gets irritated so quickly on small issues( especially with my sons behaviour) and has it in his mind and is irritated for more than a day for that. And passes that mood to the whole family
he abuses me with unpleasant words. And I am always scared ..expecting something or the other to burst out anytime..I am scared to smile..i also have a 2 yrs. old daughter who even at this age is very good and disciplined. I am sure she is fine..
my husband when he is in a good state tells me that he as a child also was very lazy(even now) and also hyper. He cannot get along with people quickly( I help him to get along)..very short tempered since childhood..
I also had a very sad childhood(my dad was a sadist and my mom got separated )..but I and my mom are extremely positive about everything. But now I have started becoming negative, irritated and short tempered ..
I am in a very bad state that I cannot be happy even for one complete day. And my husbands mood and mind is passing negative energy and how much ever I try , I am losing control and react to my kids. And with a son like mine who need care and help I have started losing hope and having negative thoughts..almost in a depressed state..
all I worry is about my kids....just want to live for them..
I felt if I solve my sons issues I can almost solve most of my problems.
I feel trapped in the net of life..
.
PLEASE HELP at the earliest...( by the way I have never consulted any doctor or counsellor for this..and I will surely not be able to do it as my husband wont agree)