STRESSEDTOMAX
Member
Good Morning Everyone -
Happy New Year. My greatest wish is for PEACE - for all of us and for all of our difficult children. Parenting a difficult child is not for cowards, that's for sure. As is usual for me, I haven't been on here for a few months. One of my New Year's resolutions is going to be to post at least once a week so that I can give as well as receive support and get to know each of you better. When I last posted, I was trying to get difficult child out of a SBS self-contained classroom because it was filled with aggressive kids and was definitely not appropriate for him. I wound up being able to get him out of that school ONLY after exiting the Easy Child program entirely and forfeiting his IEP. This made me extremely nervous, but it was vitally important that we get him out of that environment. So...on November 1 he began Middle School in the mainstream with no accomodations. Surprisingly, there were no HUGE problems. There were however a few minor ones that could definitely lead to larger ones. For example, if anyone said anything mean to him, he would report them to the teacher or principal. We have tried to explain to him that in sixth grade, this is not always the wisest thing to do. For some reason, he just doesn't get this and is still continuing this.
Anyway, all in all, we had seen a MIRACULOUS change in him for the better. The only change in medications had been the addition of Prozac 10mg daily for his anxiety. However, over the last month there has been a definite deterioration in his behavior. We had seen barely any meltdowns for a couple of months and now they are back full force. Yesterday there were THREE!! He had had a bad night on Tuesday night and I really believe it was due to having to go back to school after the break...the whole transition thing. In the morning it was a HORROR. He wound up going to school two hours late. He leaves and seems fine - like nothing happened - and I am left totally drained. Then, since I had told him in the morning if he didn't calm down he wasn't going to be able to play with his friend that afternoon, I stuck to my guns and when he found out he couldn't play, all HELL broke loose. He was hitting things with his guitar, cursing, constant screaming, threatening to destroy things, locking doors, etc. threatening me, taunting the dog. The poor dog is a mess from all of this constant screaming. she actually bit both of us yesterday. When he starts, I need to crate her. Anyway - I guess maybe I shouldn't have imposed a consequence. Maybe I should have just let him start fresh when he came home from school. More problems at bedtime again - but a smooth morning. We have a psychiatric appointment tomorrow and I hope I can get some advice. I don't know how much longer we'll be able to live like this. I have a few other things that I wanted to mention but this is too long so I'll post later. Thanks. PS: He flushed MY anti-anxiety medications down the sink during meltdown yesterday...not good...
Happy New Year. My greatest wish is for PEACE - for all of us and for all of our difficult children. Parenting a difficult child is not for cowards, that's for sure. As is usual for me, I haven't been on here for a few months. One of my New Year's resolutions is going to be to post at least once a week so that I can give as well as receive support and get to know each of you better. When I last posted, I was trying to get difficult child out of a SBS self-contained classroom because it was filled with aggressive kids and was definitely not appropriate for him. I wound up being able to get him out of that school ONLY after exiting the Easy Child program entirely and forfeiting his IEP. This made me extremely nervous, but it was vitally important that we get him out of that environment. So...on November 1 he began Middle School in the mainstream with no accomodations. Surprisingly, there were no HUGE problems. There were however a few minor ones that could definitely lead to larger ones. For example, if anyone said anything mean to him, he would report them to the teacher or principal. We have tried to explain to him that in sixth grade, this is not always the wisest thing to do. For some reason, he just doesn't get this and is still continuing this.
Anyway, all in all, we had seen a MIRACULOUS change in him for the better. The only change in medications had been the addition of Prozac 10mg daily for his anxiety. However, over the last month there has been a definite deterioration in his behavior. We had seen barely any meltdowns for a couple of months and now they are back full force. Yesterday there were THREE!! He had had a bad night on Tuesday night and I really believe it was due to having to go back to school after the break...the whole transition thing. In the morning it was a HORROR. He wound up going to school two hours late. He leaves and seems fine - like nothing happened - and I am left totally drained. Then, since I had told him in the morning if he didn't calm down he wasn't going to be able to play with his friend that afternoon, I stuck to my guns and when he found out he couldn't play, all HELL broke loose. He was hitting things with his guitar, cursing, constant screaming, threatening to destroy things, locking doors, etc. threatening me, taunting the dog. The poor dog is a mess from all of this constant screaming. she actually bit both of us yesterday. When he starts, I need to crate her. Anyway - I guess maybe I shouldn't have imposed a consequence. Maybe I should have just let him start fresh when he came home from school. More problems at bedtime again - but a smooth morning. We have a psychiatric appointment tomorrow and I hope I can get some advice. I don't know how much longer we'll be able to live like this. I have a few other things that I wanted to mention but this is too long so I'll post later. Thanks. PS: He flushed MY anti-anxiety medications down the sink during meltdown yesterday...not good...