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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 528658" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>OH good grief, how soon are you moving? The doctor is the psychiatric? Has he heard of early intervention, a concept well known and researched since before the 1970's? Sadly, some people in the mental health system just do not see past the things they are used to dealing with. They dont understand kids who are truly differently wired and they can't see this is not a family systems problem, but rather a child with special needs where the child need unique therapies and the parents need unique supports and methods to help deal with it. </p><p></p><p>Just go ahead and plan for a complete neuropsychologist evaluation, get nothing less than a complete one... new Speech Language Pathologist (SLP), new Occupational Therapist (OT) and full neuropsychologist since you are in a situation where CPS is involved you want all the data you can have for years to come. If your son is so gifted, and has these issues I really hope you are going to have a full autism evaluation done as well as looking at everything it could be. It can be many things but given his need to have things go just his way and how he can look so adhd, I'd wonder about the many factors that make up that profile....sensory issues, being gifted in certain areas but lacking in social areas, etc.</p><p></p><p>The foster mom saying things are "fine" sounds like an automatic response designed to make her look good or not to worry people etc. He probably has the new behavior (biting) because he is not with his family! Duh, it makes me crazy they dont think of their security and emotional well being....I mean he didn't even go into foster care due to abuse TO him. They should be ultra careful to make sure he can talk to mommy and daddy every day. They are so locked into the system that treats only one kind of situation. I am really sorry for him and for you. </p><p></p><p>Sounds great that the new area you are moving to has better resources and is maybe a little more clued into kids like your difficult child. If he needs placement out of the home, (if you decide that for a while) then a typical foster home will NOT DO. He will need a therapeutic placement....either therapeutic foster care or a residential treatment kind of setting. But he is so young, it would be ideal if you could get intensive in home support with PCA's or Independent Living Skills workers (people who run behavioral goals) etc. Ignore the do...waiting is not an option. You are still his parents and have the right (heck the job/responsibility) to advocate for all he needs so keep on your path! This site has always said to put on your armor and get into warrior mode. It is the way we have to live our lives! Believe me...like a good frying pan, the armor with the most dents and use are the toughest and protect us the best. Sounds like yours will be getting lots of use but there really is hope if you can get these new evaluations done and get a proper diagnosis. Hopefully, if needed, you will find medications that can help. </p><p></p><p>I worked in a child development center where one child with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) (also gifted and wow, a great kid but sooo aggressive) actually bit part of his baby siblings ear off. He was started on Risperdal and it worked like a miracle for him. He was able to be at home and they could continue to work on his goals in daily treatment and early childhood intervention too. When my son was diagnosed I enrolled him there too....so medical insurance paid for daily intensive autism treatment and then he went to early childhood special education (and the next year Special Education Kindergarten) in addition. We also did out of home private Occupational Therapist (OT), Speech and social skills groups. No matter the diagnosis, finding support like that really does help so much.... you meet people who understand and can give you support. (for us it was Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) but when you find out what is going on you will tailor it to his needs of course, just sharing the example).</p><p> </p><p>Hope they dont goof you up too much.... let us know how things are going!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 528658, member: 12886"] OH good grief, how soon are you moving? The doctor is the psychiatric? Has he heard of early intervention, a concept well known and researched since before the 1970's? Sadly, some people in the mental health system just do not see past the things they are used to dealing with. They dont understand kids who are truly differently wired and they can't see this is not a family systems problem, but rather a child with special needs where the child need unique therapies and the parents need unique supports and methods to help deal with it. Just go ahead and plan for a complete neuropsychologist evaluation, get nothing less than a complete one... new Speech Language Pathologist (SLP), new Occupational Therapist (OT) and full neuropsychologist since you are in a situation where CPS is involved you want all the data you can have for years to come. If your son is so gifted, and has these issues I really hope you are going to have a full autism evaluation done as well as looking at everything it could be. It can be many things but given his need to have things go just his way and how he can look so adhd, I'd wonder about the many factors that make up that profile....sensory issues, being gifted in certain areas but lacking in social areas, etc. The foster mom saying things are "fine" sounds like an automatic response designed to make her look good or not to worry people etc. He probably has the new behavior (biting) because he is not with his family! Duh, it makes me crazy they dont think of their security and emotional well being....I mean he didn't even go into foster care due to abuse TO him. They should be ultra careful to make sure he can talk to mommy and daddy every day. They are so locked into the system that treats only one kind of situation. I am really sorry for him and for you. Sounds great that the new area you are moving to has better resources and is maybe a little more clued into kids like your difficult child. If he needs placement out of the home, (if you decide that for a while) then a typical foster home will NOT DO. He will need a therapeutic placement....either therapeutic foster care or a residential treatment kind of setting. But he is so young, it would be ideal if you could get intensive in home support with PCA's or Independent Living Skills workers (people who run behavioral goals) etc. Ignore the do...waiting is not an option. You are still his parents and have the right (heck the job/responsibility) to advocate for all he needs so keep on your path! This site has always said to put on your armor and get into warrior mode. It is the way we have to live our lives! Believe me...like a good frying pan, the armor with the most dents and use are the toughest and protect us the best. Sounds like yours will be getting lots of use but there really is hope if you can get these new evaluations done and get a proper diagnosis. Hopefully, if needed, you will find medications that can help. I worked in a child development center where one child with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) (also gifted and wow, a great kid but sooo aggressive) actually bit part of his baby siblings ear off. He was started on Risperdal and it worked like a miracle for him. He was able to be at home and they could continue to work on his goals in daily treatment and early childhood intervention too. When my son was diagnosed I enrolled him there too....so medical insurance paid for daily intensive autism treatment and then he went to early childhood special education (and the next year Special Education Kindergarten) in addition. We also did out of home private Occupational Therapist (OT), Speech and social skills groups. No matter the diagnosis, finding support like that really does help so much.... you meet people who understand and can give you support. (for us it was Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) but when you find out what is going on you will tailor it to his needs of course, just sharing the example). Hope they dont goof you up too much.... let us know how things are going! [/QUOTE]
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