Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
A Little difficult child Weirdness
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 274264" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Lisa, you expect too much from a difficult child in her 30's LOL </p><p> </p><p>If they havent gotten their act halfway together by now, the chances are not good for doing so any time soon, if ever (using my own as a point of reference <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> You can tell when their life and/or relationships are running well, and when their life may be starting to tank, just by the behaviors you see emerging, conversations that previously had a lot of normal sharing of information becomes vague and ambigious, that sort of thing. And then you start thinking "why aren't they doing "whatever" it is, and it becomes unsettling, and one starts to "read into" things, and it can and will make you crazy thinking about it.</p><p> </p><p>The boys and I are not considered family anymore by the eldest, and thats because there is nothing we can "do" for her. Jamie has seen his neice one time, Danny has never seen her, they haven't seen their nephews in over two years. She has only been in our house once in all that time,and thats only because she had a tooth pulled and needed a ride. I have only see the kids three times so far this year, two were because she needed a babysitter, once for Nate's birthday last month at his favorite buffet. Other than those kind of occasions, contact is non existant. No holiday get togethers, no invites to the kids birthday parties - well, there was one invite last year at Wyatts, and then we got disinvited with the story the pool party was cancelled. She has a My Space as well, Wyatts picture is on there with his cake, and a ton of pictures that are under the heading of Family - we are no where to be seen. I just don't even look at that anymore.</p><p> </p><p>So at the end of the day Lisa, my advice is NOT to make yourself crazy and sad, do what you can for the grandkids, and be on guard so you are not taken advantage of.</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 274264, member: 47"] Lisa, you expect too much from a difficult child in her 30's LOL If they havent gotten their act halfway together by now, the chances are not good for doing so any time soon, if ever (using my own as a point of reference :) You can tell when their life and/or relationships are running well, and when their life may be starting to tank, just by the behaviors you see emerging, conversations that previously had a lot of normal sharing of information becomes vague and ambigious, that sort of thing. And then you start thinking "why aren't they doing "whatever" it is, and it becomes unsettling, and one starts to "read into" things, and it can and will make you crazy thinking about it. The boys and I are not considered family anymore by the eldest, and thats because there is nothing we can "do" for her. Jamie has seen his neice one time, Danny has never seen her, they haven't seen their nephews in over two years. She has only been in our house once in all that time,and thats only because she had a tooth pulled and needed a ride. I have only see the kids three times so far this year, two were because she needed a babysitter, once for Nate's birthday last month at his favorite buffet. Other than those kind of occasions, contact is non existant. No holiday get togethers, no invites to the kids birthday parties - well, there was one invite last year at Wyatts, and then we got disinvited with the story the pool party was cancelled. She has a My Space as well, Wyatts picture is on there with his cake, and a ton of pictures that are under the heading of Family - we are no where to be seen. I just don't even look at that anymore. So at the end of the day Lisa, my advice is NOT to make yourself crazy and sad, do what you can for the grandkids, and be on guard so you are not taken advantage of. Marcie [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
A Little difficult child Weirdness
Top