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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 416540" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Wow, I got flashbacks reading that. I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that. We went through a similar hell with Kanga, all of qualified for PTSD diagnosis after she was done with us.</p><p></p><p>Remember the joy when you got the call to adopt them, when they first came home, remember the hope that with therapy, love and consistency that they could thrive, remember the first time they raged, remember the first time they injured another family member, remember the first crisis call, the first psychiatric hospital stay, the first time you realized that this child could not ever come home. Not exactly all the "firsts" we planned.</p><p></p><p>Your son is very, very young. Kanga was 13 when she went into residential and we live with a low level panic that we would lose funding, that some new 'treatment model' would push her out of residential, that we would be caught between having to bring her home or risk being charged with child abandonment and losing the other kids. Have you considered disrupting the adoption? I don't know what state you are in or what type of adoption it was, if that is even possible for you. There is another poster on here who had to disrupt one of their adoptions due to the violence and abuse that the child brought into their home. Eleven years is a long time to pray that funding hangs in there. </p><p></p><p>If you continue to parent him from afar (like we do with Kanga) or if you choose to disrupt (like MWM), know that we are here for you, without judgement, with support, hugs and nekkid chicken dances (lol).</p><p></p><p>How is your 8 year old? Is he/she recovering? I know it helped my kids alot just be able to do 'normal' family things that we hadn't been able to do when dealing with Kanga's crisis. (A good note is that after 3 years of Kanga being out of the house and over 1 year of no contact between them and her, our kids are all doing great -- no more nightmares <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> )</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 416540, member: 1169"] Wow, I got flashbacks reading that. I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that. We went through a similar hell with Kanga, all of qualified for PTSD diagnosis after she was done with us. Remember the joy when you got the call to adopt them, when they first came home, remember the hope that with therapy, love and consistency that they could thrive, remember the first time they raged, remember the first time they injured another family member, remember the first crisis call, the first psychiatric hospital stay, the first time you realized that this child could not ever come home. Not exactly all the "firsts" we planned. Your son is very, very young. Kanga was 13 when she went into residential and we live with a low level panic that we would lose funding, that some new 'treatment model' would push her out of residential, that we would be caught between having to bring her home or risk being charged with child abandonment and losing the other kids. Have you considered disrupting the adoption? I don't know what state you are in or what type of adoption it was, if that is even possible for you. There is another poster on here who had to disrupt one of their adoptions due to the violence and abuse that the child brought into their home. Eleven years is a long time to pray that funding hangs in there. If you continue to parent him from afar (like we do with Kanga) or if you choose to disrupt (like MWM), know that we are here for you, without judgement, with support, hugs and nekkid chicken dances (lol). How is your 8 year old? Is he/she recovering? I know it helped my kids alot just be able to do 'normal' family things that we hadn't been able to do when dealing with Kanga's crisis. (A good note is that after 3 years of Kanga being out of the house and over 1 year of no contact between them and her, our kids are all doing great -- no more nightmares :) ) [/QUOTE]
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