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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 154203" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Well, the "safe place" works for us when difficult child is relatively stable on medications and we both (or one of us) notices an indicator that we need a break from each other for a few minutes or that he needs to take a break from whatever he is doing because it is causing him too much frustration. When "realatively stable" isn't where difficult child is to start out with, and it sounds to me like your difficult child isn't there right now, then this approach doesn't work. If I can catch difficult child when he is coming out of hypomania, this is the time I start reminding him of the "safe place" option and other strategies he can choose to try to help things from going backwards again. To clarify- the safe place won't stop the raging if it has already started- it is a strategy to prevent it from starting.</p><p></p><p>Trust me, if you knew all we've been through the past few weeks, you would see that this doesn't always work in my house either. I was just told by the 2nd counselor in 2 weeks that difficult child is still cycling and until medications get him more stable, we can't get much farther. So, I would say if raging is a frequent event, work on medications first. Of course, psychiatrist says that counseling should take care of the rest, but psychiatrist is the only person to say this. Other than the PO, who apparently thinks more punishment will cure it.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 154203, member: 3699"] Well, the "safe place" works for us when difficult child is relatively stable on medications and we both (or one of us) notices an indicator that we need a break from each other for a few minutes or that he needs to take a break from whatever he is doing because it is causing him too much frustration. When "realatively stable" isn't where difficult child is to start out with, and it sounds to me like your difficult child isn't there right now, then this approach doesn't work. If I can catch difficult child when he is coming out of hypomania, this is the time I start reminding him of the "safe place" option and other strategies he can choose to try to help things from going backwards again. To clarify- the safe place won't stop the raging if it has already started- it is a strategy to prevent it from starting. Trust me, if you knew all we've been through the past few weeks, you would see that this doesn't always work in my house either. I was just told by the 2nd counselor in 2 weeks that difficult child is still cycling and until medications get him more stable, we can't get much farther. So, I would say if raging is a frequent event, work on medications first. Of course, psychiatrist says that counseling should take care of the rest, but psychiatrist is the only person to say this. Other than the PO, who apparently thinks more punishment will cure it. Good luck!! [/QUOTE]
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