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A stab of guilt, I could use some support...........
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 574316" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>RE...you are a remarkable mom. I think we all feel that stab of guilt at some point in time. As an adult difficult child I can look back in time and see some things. When I was young and dumb my dad basically washed his hands of me. Oh he would talk to me from time to time but it was clear as a bell that he wasnt happy at all with me or my life. He actually sent me a wedding invitation to his second wedding that arrived a week before the wedding knowing I had no car and was two states away. He didnt even bother to call the only number he had for me to see if I needed transportation to get there. It was obvious he didnt want me there. He didnt even send anything for the birth of his second grandson...though he did come down to see him about two months later. He didnt call me in the hospital or anything. I have to say I have always envied those who have family come to visit them when they give birth. I never did. </p><p></p><p>My dad only came around once I turned around. For him that meant when I graduated college. And it took him quite awhile to take to Tony. He did though and on his death bed he thanked Tony for being there for me and the kids. In our later years we were able to put my past behind us and became quite close. I know he always loved me and I know without a doubt watching me self destruct had to hurt him deeply because I was his only child but he had to let me go to let me grow. I am not the child he had hoped for I am sure but I think in the end I gave him 3 precious grandsons that he adored and 3 grandchildren he adored...and one he never got to meet. He really loved Cory's daughter so much. I know he would have loved Cory's youngest too. He was always so amazed with Tony being indian and to see a real little indian princess with McKenzie would have made his day. I often think of him looking down on her. I think he knows. Lord Im blathering on.</p><p></p><p>You have had to let your daughter go so she can grow. My dad took many trips and cruises and such while my family was poor as church mice. I was happy for him. He worked hard to get what he got.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 574316, member: 1514"] RE...you are a remarkable mom. I think we all feel that stab of guilt at some point in time. As an adult difficult child I can look back in time and see some things. When I was young and dumb my dad basically washed his hands of me. Oh he would talk to me from time to time but it was clear as a bell that he wasnt happy at all with me or my life. He actually sent me a wedding invitation to his second wedding that arrived a week before the wedding knowing I had no car and was two states away. He didnt even bother to call the only number he had for me to see if I needed transportation to get there. It was obvious he didnt want me there. He didnt even send anything for the birth of his second grandson...though he did come down to see him about two months later. He didnt call me in the hospital or anything. I have to say I have always envied those who have family come to visit them when they give birth. I never did. My dad only came around once I turned around. For him that meant when I graduated college. And it took him quite awhile to take to Tony. He did though and on his death bed he thanked Tony for being there for me and the kids. In our later years we were able to put my past behind us and became quite close. I know he always loved me and I know without a doubt watching me self destruct had to hurt him deeply because I was his only child but he had to let me go to let me grow. I am not the child he had hoped for I am sure but I think in the end I gave him 3 precious grandsons that he adored and 3 grandchildren he adored...and one he never got to meet. He really loved Cory's daughter so much. I know he would have loved Cory's youngest too. He was always so amazed with Tony being indian and to see a real little indian princess with McKenzie would have made his day. I often think of him looking down on her. I think he knows. Lord Im blathering on. You have had to let your daughter go so she can grow. My dad took many trips and cruises and such while my family was poor as church mice. I was happy for him. He worked hard to get what he got. [/QUOTE]
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