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A weird night and Jumper and J. are over
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 488916" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>On the suicide talk issue - Jumper needs to not feel responsible for him or sorry for him. The "cry for help" in a boy this age in a tangled relationship can sometimes be manipulation. I had a friend go through this when I was Jumper's age. My friend's boyfriend would telephone, say he was suicidal, my friend would rush over to see him and comfort him and then it would be "phew! Crisis averted!" and the guy had also had a huge payoff in terms of validation from his girlfriend.</p><p></p><p>J may not be doing this so blatantly, or even be aware of it himself, but the danger is there that it could develop into an unhealthy pattern. If what you get out of a relationship is mostly validation, after you go searching for it and push buttons to get it, then the relationship has become unhealthily codependent. Jumper is just a kid, and sensible adults can get trapped by this so she is more vulnerable.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 488916, member: 1991"] On the suicide talk issue - Jumper needs to not feel responsible for him or sorry for him. The "cry for help" in a boy this age in a tangled relationship can sometimes be manipulation. I had a friend go through this when I was Jumper's age. My friend's boyfriend would telephone, say he was suicidal, my friend would rush over to see him and comfort him and then it would be "phew! Crisis averted!" and the guy had also had a huge payoff in terms of validation from his girlfriend. J may not be doing this so blatantly, or even be aware of it himself, but the danger is there that it could develop into an unhealthy pattern. If what you get out of a relationship is mostly validation, after you go searching for it and push buttons to get it, then the relationship has become unhealthily codependent. Jumper is just a kid, and sensible adults can get trapped by this so she is more vulnerable. Marg [/QUOTE]
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