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adopted 10 yr old twins with ADHD--PLease help!
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 416786" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>An IEP is a good idea. Some parents just do not deal with homework at all because there is already too much stress in the home.</p><p> </p><p>Has the agency given you full and complete records about the twins first ten years?? Often times there is a "hidden" history that is not disclosed in fear that foster/adopt parents will terminate their efforts. Sometimes I think I'm the "doom and gloom" member of the CD family but I feel compelled to share experience even if it is not on the positive side. Hope it doesn't offend you.</p><p> </p><p>The first three years of life are extremely important in determining how children bond. Neglect and abuse at an early age can result in difficulties bonding for later years. If the boys have been in and out of foster homes then they have not been securely attached. These are big issues that you should see documented. They should have complete medical and mental health records too. The agencies are very eager to place siblings (especially twins) with one family. That goal makes alot of sense. Sometimes, tho, one child has behaviors that prevents that goal from being practical.</p><p> </p><p>Have there been neuropsychological evaluations done? There should have been and you have the right to review the results so you know exactly what you're getting into. So my advise is to explore their past, explore their present (testing and evaluation) and then come up with a game plan for your family. I really wish you well. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 416786, member: 35"] An IEP is a good idea. Some parents just do not deal with homework at all because there is already too much stress in the home. Has the agency given you full and complete records about the twins first ten years?? Often times there is a "hidden" history that is not disclosed in fear that foster/adopt parents will terminate their efforts. Sometimes I think I'm the "doom and gloom" member of the CD family but I feel compelled to share experience even if it is not on the positive side. Hope it doesn't offend you. The first three years of life are extremely important in determining how children bond. Neglect and abuse at an early age can result in difficulties bonding for later years. If the boys have been in and out of foster homes then they have not been securely attached. These are big issues that you should see documented. They should have complete medical and mental health records too. The agencies are very eager to place siblings (especially twins) with one family. That goal makes alot of sense. Sometimes, tho, one child has behaviors that prevents that goal from being practical. Have there been neuropsychological evaluations done? There should have been and you have the right to review the results so you know exactly what you're getting into. So my advise is to explore their past, explore their present (testing and evaluation) and then come up with a game plan for your family. I really wish you well. DDD [/QUOTE]
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