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adopted 10 yr old twins with ADHD--PLease help!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 416842" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>At least they are the only kids. Seriously, that helps.</p><p></p><p>I learned the hard way however they not all kids want a family. That was certainly the case with our adopted son. He did not really think of us as parents and only played up to us or hugged us or said he loved us (he didn't mean it) when he wanted money or a toy or a game. When he was removed, he was diagnosed with Severe Attachment Disorder and put into a home for young sexual predators. I have no idea what happened to him. My other children were so traumatized by him that had we kept in touch, I'm not sure how they would be today. It was two years of therapy and healing after he left.</p><p></p><p>I will share with you what we have since been told are the three big red flags for a child who has no conscience and may grow up to be a psychopath(antisocial personality disorder). One is peeing and pooping inappropriately (our child used to do it all over the house, in his pants, in closets..etc. We thought it was our new dog!). Another one is cruelty to animals. The third is a fascination with fire and maybe setting small fires or big ones. We found out, after the boy left, that he had set fires (small ones) all over the house. Our other children showed us the places that were singed by his lighter that he had stolen from Walmart. Those are three markers to watch out for.</p><p></p><p>Have the twins ever been evaluated for possible fetal alcohol effects? We had one of our sons tested at a facility specifically for that issue, and then he also had a neuropsychologist evaluation. His birthmother had also used cocaine and if she said "yes" to cocaine, she didn't say "no" to alcohol! He turned out to be a great kid, but he does have autistic spectrum disorder and will need help as an adult (he turns 18 in August). He was adopted out of foster care at a young age and does not have behavior problems, however.</p><p></p><p>Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 416842, member: 1550"] At least they are the only kids. Seriously, that helps. I learned the hard way however they not all kids want a family. That was certainly the case with our adopted son. He did not really think of us as parents and only played up to us or hugged us or said he loved us (he didn't mean it) when he wanted money or a toy or a game. When he was removed, he was diagnosed with Severe Attachment Disorder and put into a home for young sexual predators. I have no idea what happened to him. My other children were so traumatized by him that had we kept in touch, I'm not sure how they would be today. It was two years of therapy and healing after he left. I will share with you what we have since been told are the three big red flags for a child who has no conscience and may grow up to be a psychopath(antisocial personality disorder). One is peeing and pooping inappropriately (our child used to do it all over the house, in his pants, in closets..etc. We thought it was our new dog!). Another one is cruelty to animals. The third is a fascination with fire and maybe setting small fires or big ones. We found out, after the boy left, that he had set fires (small ones) all over the house. Our other children showed us the places that were singed by his lighter that he had stolen from Walmart. Those are three markers to watch out for. Have the twins ever been evaluated for possible fetal alcohol effects? We had one of our sons tested at a facility specifically for that issue, and then he also had a neuropsychologist evaluation. His birthmother had also used cocaine and if she said "yes" to cocaine, she didn't say "no" to alcohol! He turned out to be a great kid, but he does have autistic spectrum disorder and will need help as an adult (he turns 18 in August). He was adopted out of foster care at a young age and does not have behavior problems, however. Good luck :) [/QUOTE]
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