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Adopted kids with addictions --what about their birthparents?
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 507999"><p>I know my sons birthmom had issues although I am not totally sure of what they were. We did meet her and liked her and knew she came from a different background than us. I do not know for sure she or his birthfather (who we know nothing about) had sa issues.... but I sure believe they did given his history. I may have commented when he was young that he didn't know the sa history in his birthfamily so he would need to take extra care... didn't make any difference though and I don't think it would have made any difference.</p><p></p><p>I don't know how things are today in adoption, but i do kind of feel that the risks of adoption were not clear to us. I had no idea of the number of kids who are adopted go on to have other issues. It just felt like we were getting this wonderful baby and of course we would love him and raise him like any other child and he would grow up with certain advantages and things would be hunky dory.....yes there may be some "Adoption" issues but really it was just a different way to build a family. I do know a number of adoptive families where they do not have these kind of issues.</p><p></p><p>And my easy child is also adopted and is a very together young woman who has her head on straight.</p><p></p><p>So I am not sure what I woudl say or what I would have said differently. I am not totally sure what I would have done differently.... although a part of me intensely wishes i could start over with my difficult child knowing what I know now!!!!</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 507999"] I know my sons birthmom had issues although I am not totally sure of what they were. We did meet her and liked her and knew she came from a different background than us. I do not know for sure she or his birthfather (who we know nothing about) had sa issues.... but I sure believe they did given his history. I may have commented when he was young that he didn't know the sa history in his birthfamily so he would need to take extra care... didn't make any difference though and I don't think it would have made any difference. I don't know how things are today in adoption, but i do kind of feel that the risks of adoption were not clear to us. I had no idea of the number of kids who are adopted go on to have other issues. It just felt like we were getting this wonderful baby and of course we would love him and raise him like any other child and he would grow up with certain advantages and things would be hunky dory.....yes there may be some "Adoption" issues but really it was just a different way to build a family. I do know a number of adoptive families where they do not have these kind of issues. And my easy child is also adopted and is a very together young woman who has her head on straight. So I am not sure what I woudl say or what I would have said differently. I am not totally sure what I would have done differently.... although a part of me intensely wishes i could start over with my difficult child knowing what I know now!!!! TL [/QUOTE]
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