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Adopted kids with addictions --what about their birthparents?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 508027" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>My niece was attending college and renting a room. One other lady was renting a room and was pregnant. After the baby was born the mother left him with my niece for entire weekends. She would not leave diapers or formula and my niece would bring him to family get togethers.</p><p></p><p>I remember one Christmas when he was 9 months old the mother left him with my niece and his bottom was so red with a rash, it looked like he had worn the messy diaper for days (or more). The baby rarely cried. The mother asked my niece to babsysit one weekend and never came back.</p><p></p><p>My niece knew the mother used drugs and alcohol during pregnancy, but she was not prepared for the consequences of the drug use. He is 'slow' and my niece sits with him for hours doing homework, but he then makes good grades. The kids pick on him and he goes along because he wants to be liked. A bigger kid was hitting him with a belt on the bus (driver didn't see it, give me a break) and one of the students had it one their phone and was showing it around the school. He came home with welts on his face and arms. When asked about it he said they were just playing.</p><p></p><p>At around 7 he was mad at someone and took the scissors and cut up all of his clothes. I watched him one weekend (emergency) and both hubby and I were exhausted when he left. He has to be watched constantly.</p><p></p><p>He is close to 13 now and last month he had a friend sleep over. At 2AM they were playing with flashlights so my niece sent nephew to sleep on the couch. The friend is a bed wetter and she did not want him to wet the new sofa. After niece went back to bed nephew gets up and pees all over the sofa. My niece said it was so wet he must have done this twice. He is very spiteful!</p><p></p><p>He meets once a week with a psychiatrist and my niece has been told it is going to get much worse when he hits his teens. I don't think she realized exactly how bad things were going to be, she loved him and thought that was enough. Oh, and the mother went on to have 4 more kids that she gave away.</p><p></p><p>My exercise friend has 2 adopted children that the parents were addicts. One mother is in prison (after the birth) and the baby (boy) was born with 5 drugs in his system. He is 7 yo and gets violent. Both of the children have many issues mental and physical. My friend said she was told that there is a chance that if either tried the drugs found in their systems at birth they could become instant addicts. (? I haven't researched it , but it sounds logical)</p><p></p><p>A friend works with foster parents and there are so many kids that keep getting returned because the foster parents are afraid of them. One of the birth mothers has had 6 babies born with drugs in their system. I get sick to my stomach listening to some of the stories I hear about the birth parents. I still believe God should have made us with auto birth control that we have to have removed to have children!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 508027, member: 13558"] My niece was attending college and renting a room. One other lady was renting a room and was pregnant. After the baby was born the mother left him with my niece for entire weekends. She would not leave diapers or formula and my niece would bring him to family get togethers. I remember one Christmas when he was 9 months old the mother left him with my niece and his bottom was so red with a rash, it looked like he had worn the messy diaper for days (or more). The baby rarely cried. The mother asked my niece to babsysit one weekend and never came back. My niece knew the mother used drugs and alcohol during pregnancy, but she was not prepared for the consequences of the drug use. He is 'slow' and my niece sits with him for hours doing homework, but he then makes good grades. The kids pick on him and he goes along because he wants to be liked. A bigger kid was hitting him with a belt on the bus (driver didn't see it, give me a break) and one of the students had it one their phone and was showing it around the school. He came home with welts on his face and arms. When asked about it he said they were just playing. At around 7 he was mad at someone and took the scissors and cut up all of his clothes. I watched him one weekend (emergency) and both hubby and I were exhausted when he left. He has to be watched constantly. He is close to 13 now and last month he had a friend sleep over. At 2AM they were playing with flashlights so my niece sent nephew to sleep on the couch. The friend is a bed wetter and she did not want him to wet the new sofa. After niece went back to bed nephew gets up and pees all over the sofa. My niece said it was so wet he must have done this twice. He is very spiteful! He meets once a week with a psychiatrist and my niece has been told it is going to get much worse when he hits his teens. I don't think she realized exactly how bad things were going to be, she loved him and thought that was enough. Oh, and the mother went on to have 4 more kids that she gave away. My exercise friend has 2 adopted children that the parents were addicts. One mother is in prison (after the birth) and the baby (boy) was born with 5 drugs in his system. He is 7 yo and gets violent. Both of the children have many issues mental and physical. My friend said she was told that there is a chance that if either tried the drugs found in their systems at birth they could become instant addicts. (? I haven't researched it , but it sounds logical) A friend works with foster parents and there are so many kids that keep getting returned because the foster parents are afraid of them. One of the birth mothers has had 6 babies born with drugs in their system. I get sick to my stomach listening to some of the stories I hear about the birth parents. I still believe God should have made us with auto birth control that we have to have removed to have children! [/QUOTE]
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