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Adopted kids with addictions --what about their birthparents?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 508159" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My daughter who BECAME a drug addict had no birth history because she came from Korea. But I'd bet my bottom dollar one of her birthparents abused drugs. </p><p></p><p>For my two adopted children whose birth history I know about, I have told both of them that they would have to be very careful even if they tried one drink of alcohol. Sonics birthmother was a long time addict who had given birth to four drug affected kids before Sonic. She had been in rehab eleven times and had walked out each time. Sonic was born with cocaine in his system. It was harder to tell him about her because she disregarded him so callously...literally gave birth high as a kite, named him and left the hospital AMA. But we did tell him, slowly, that she was "sick" and that her sickness was drug addiction...as well as making sure he knew and understood that this could happen to him if he ever tried to do any drugs or to drink. He never has. With his autism and fear of the unknown, he would probably not...he is just not interested. But if we are wrong...oh boy.</p><p></p><p>Jumper's birthfather is a career drug addict and in and out of jail. We were more direct with Jumper. She shocked us by looking up her birthfather's mug shot in jail! Fortunately, we could tell her that her birthmother was great and never abused anything and she is more like her birthmother (mellow and sensible) than her birthfather. We have told her many times that any time she experiments, it would be a bigger risk for her than her friends and so far (crossing fingers, eyes, toes) she hasn't. </p><p></p><p>I have heard at an adoption seminar that not only are adopted kids more likely to abuse drugs if their birthparents did, but that if their birthparents were criminals they are more likely to end up in jail too. Genetics are extremely powerful. But nurture comes into play too. </p><p></p><p>Still.....</p><p></p><p>I get <u><em><strong>very</strong></em></u> angry when social workers hold back information from adoptive parents. What good does that do??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 508159, member: 1550"] My daughter who BECAME a drug addict had no birth history because she came from Korea. But I'd bet my bottom dollar one of her birthparents abused drugs. For my two adopted children whose birth history I know about, I have told both of them that they would have to be very careful even if they tried one drink of alcohol. Sonics birthmother was a long time addict who had given birth to four drug affected kids before Sonic. She had been in rehab eleven times and had walked out each time. Sonic was born with cocaine in his system. It was harder to tell him about her because she disregarded him so callously...literally gave birth high as a kite, named him and left the hospital AMA. But we did tell him, slowly, that she was "sick" and that her sickness was drug addiction...as well as making sure he knew and understood that this could happen to him if he ever tried to do any drugs or to drink. He never has. With his autism and fear of the unknown, he would probably not...he is just not interested. But if we are wrong...oh boy. Jumper's birthfather is a career drug addict and in and out of jail. We were more direct with Jumper. She shocked us by looking up her birthfather's mug shot in jail! Fortunately, we could tell her that her birthmother was great and never abused anything and she is more like her birthmother (mellow and sensible) than her birthfather. We have told her many times that any time she experiments, it would be a bigger risk for her than her friends and so far (crossing fingers, eyes, toes) she hasn't. I have heard at an adoption seminar that not only are adopted kids more likely to abuse drugs if their birthparents did, but that if their birthparents were criminals they are more likely to end up in jail too. Genetics are extremely powerful. But nurture comes into play too. Still..... I get [U][I][B]very[/B][/I][/U] angry when social workers hold back information from adoptive parents. What good does that do?? [/QUOTE]
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