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Adopted kids with addictions --what about their birthparents?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mama Raygun" data-source="post: 508201" data-attributes="member: 13907"><p>Wow, this is a-tough one!! My heart wants to say that it's the environment and love a child is raised with not the genetics but that's very controversial. My sister adopted a baby girl at birth almost 1 yr ago, the birth mom was involved in gangs and stuff like that we aren't sure about drugs. The father is unknown. When I think of my precious little niece it seems impossible that she would grow up to be bad just because of her genes, but I know that addiction as well as other mental issues are hereditary so it's hard. As far as when and if to tell them the parents issue, i think it would be different depending on the child, maturity level, situation ect.. My son is 12 and I sat him down this summer and told him in not so many details about my past addiction and also that his paternal grandmother was a heroin addict. ( she is actually clean 6 yrs now ) just so he would know he has a higher chance of developing a problem than other kids. I don't know if doing that was right or wrong I did it out of pure fear. He was starting 7th gd and is the same age I was when I got started down my bad road. I want him to fear that. There are so many people out there with wonderful families and no family history who become addicts so it's just so hard to predict.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mama Raygun, post: 508201, member: 13907"] Wow, this is a-tough one!! My heart wants to say that it's the environment and love a child is raised with not the genetics but that's very controversial. My sister adopted a baby girl at birth almost 1 yr ago, the birth mom was involved in gangs and stuff like that we aren't sure about drugs. The father is unknown. When I think of my precious little niece it seems impossible that she would grow up to be bad just because of her genes, but I know that addiction as well as other mental issues are hereditary so it's hard. As far as when and if to tell them the parents issue, i think it would be different depending on the child, maturity level, situation ect.. My son is 12 and I sat him down this summer and told him in not so many details about my past addiction and also that his paternal grandmother was a heroin addict. ( she is actually clean 6 yrs now ) just so he would know he has a higher chance of developing a problem than other kids. I don't know if doing that was right or wrong I did it out of pure fear. He was starting 7th gd and is the same age I was when I got started down my bad road. I want him to fear that. There are so many people out there with wonderful families and no family history who become addicts so it's just so hard to predict. [/QUOTE]
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