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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 397111" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Adopted kids are never the same as bio. kids. There is always some feeling of abandonment. I took my daughter to a psychologist who only sees adopted k ids. He is GREAT. No matter whether the kids talk about being adopted or not, they think about it and this can take up a lot of time and cause problems. My younger daughter, who is very well adjusted, said, "I think everyone who is adopted is a Special Needs child." She went through a period of time where she hated her precious birthmother, who I love, because "She left me." I got in touch with her and Jumper saw her e-mails which explained how much she loved her and why she had given her to us and how we both loved each other...it seemed to have really helped. My other daughter who is adopted from Korea thinks about it too and we have talked about it a lot. I think she feels closer to me because we are open about it. I know she feels *I* love her...she is still trying hard to please her dad. It is also harder for adopted kids to go through a divorce, and my oldest daughter did...then she got involved with drugs...pretty predictable in my opinion. My younger two kids, Sonic and Jumper, have the security at least of an intact home with stability. There is proof that two parent intact families tend to foster happier, less troubled children. My oldest daughter, I'll call her Pastry Chef, has told me that she never felt a sense of family when she was young...hub and I fought a lot and then divorced. I feel so badly about that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 397111, member: 1550"] Adopted kids are never the same as bio. kids. There is always some feeling of abandonment. I took my daughter to a psychologist who only sees adopted k ids. He is GREAT. No matter whether the kids talk about being adopted or not, they think about it and this can take up a lot of time and cause problems. My younger daughter, who is very well adjusted, said, "I think everyone who is adopted is a Special Needs child." She went through a period of time where she hated her precious birthmother, who I love, because "She left me." I got in touch with her and Jumper saw her e-mails which explained how much she loved her and why she had given her to us and how we both loved each other...it seemed to have really helped. My other daughter who is adopted from Korea thinks about it too and we have talked about it a lot. I think she feels closer to me because we are open about it. I know she feels *I* love her...she is still trying hard to please her dad. It is also harder for adopted kids to go through a divorce, and my oldest daughter did...then she got involved with drugs...pretty predictable in my opinion. My younger two kids, Sonic and Jumper, have the security at least of an intact home with stability. There is proof that two parent intact families tend to foster happier, less troubled children. My oldest daughter, I'll call her Pastry Chef, has told me that she never felt a sense of family when she was young...hub and I fought a lot and then divorced. I feel so badly about that. [/QUOTE]
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