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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 487764" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>When I was about ten my aunt and her husband adopted a little girl who was almost 2. She was a really sweet thing. In the 2 mos they had her they ended her caffeine addiction and got her teeth fixed at their own cost (NOT inexpensive when the child had been drinking coke out of bottles her entire life more than anything like formula or milk) and then the mom's family decided they didn't want the adoption and they came and took her for a "visit" and three days later called and said they were keeping her. That "visit" was to be an HOUR and they just took off with the toddler. My aunt was heartbroken and as much as she wanted another child she never tried again. It was one of the early open adoptions and it was incredibly painful. It broke up that marriage even though 20+ yrs later they remarried.</p><p></p><p>The adoption system is so broken. I HATE all those who fight against abortion and then do NOTHING to help children, crisis centers, etc...... I know it is a strong word, but I have seen so many kids who have suffered so much and it could have been helped if a tiny bit of the $$ spent on the perks that the politicians and their cronies get went to help chidlren, children's mental health, etc..... I do feel blessed to live in a community that has worked hard to keep our schools well funded but I think our entire societal view of children's issues is entire wrong and in many ways immoral. HOW is that baby helped by contact with the father who isn 't fit to raise her and by living with a mother who would have preferred to not raise her? HOW is this good for the chidl when there is a family who is ready and eager to adopt the child and raise her with love and all that she owuld need? How is it better to build jails and not provide ANY mental helath services so that most of the mentally ill who don't have family resources end up in jail because it is the only place they can go besides the streets? </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for your relative's pain. this is just so screwed up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 487764, member: 1233"] When I was about ten my aunt and her husband adopted a little girl who was almost 2. She was a really sweet thing. In the 2 mos they had her they ended her caffeine addiction and got her teeth fixed at their own cost (NOT inexpensive when the child had been drinking coke out of bottles her entire life more than anything like formula or milk) and then the mom's family decided they didn't want the adoption and they came and took her for a "visit" and three days later called and said they were keeping her. That "visit" was to be an HOUR and they just took off with the toddler. My aunt was heartbroken and as much as she wanted another child she never tried again. It was one of the early open adoptions and it was incredibly painful. It broke up that marriage even though 20+ yrs later they remarried. The adoption system is so broken. I HATE all those who fight against abortion and then do NOTHING to help children, crisis centers, etc...... I know it is a strong word, but I have seen so many kids who have suffered so much and it could have been helped if a tiny bit of the $$ spent on the perks that the politicians and their cronies get went to help chidlren, children's mental health, etc..... I do feel blessed to live in a community that has worked hard to keep our schools well funded but I think our entire societal view of children's issues is entire wrong and in many ways immoral. HOW is that baby helped by contact with the father who isn 't fit to raise her and by living with a mother who would have preferred to not raise her? HOW is this good for the chidl when there is a family who is ready and eager to adopt the child and raise her with love and all that she owuld need? How is it better to build jails and not provide ANY mental helath services so that most of the mentally ill who don't have family resources end up in jail because it is the only place they can go besides the streets? I am so sorry for your relative's pain. this is just so screwed up. [/QUOTE]
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