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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 138155" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Honestly, I'd be livid. The only reason I would want the biomom even mentioned in official records is for medical and psychological purposes. Even then, it should be specifically stated she is the biological mother, not the mom, not the parent.</p><p> </p><p>I think the phrase that gets to me more than any other is "real mom." To me, that's the person who raised the child, who sat up nights praying and worrying, who visited the ER at 3 am, who held her child as she cried her eyes out for whatever reason. I really get snappish when people put me into a second-class role as a mother because my child didn't come out of my womb.</p><p> </p><p>Strangely, I have no problem with my daughter wanting to love her biomom. She should! This woman wasn't much of a parent for 3 years but she really did do the best she could. Drugs had defeated her long before she got pregnant and yet she managed to stay off of drugs for 8 months for her foetus. She truly loved her child as much as she could, it just wasn't enough. </p><p> </p><p>That being said, I AM my daughter's mother, mom, mommy and I'll be danged if I'll let anyone put another in that spot -- either verbally or on paper!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 138155, member: 3626"] Honestly, I'd be livid. The only reason I would want the biomom even mentioned in official records is for medical and psychological purposes. Even then, it should be specifically stated she is the biological mother, not the mom, not the parent. I think the phrase that gets to me more than any other is "real mom." To me, that's the person who raised the child, who sat up nights praying and worrying, who visited the ER at 3 am, who held her child as she cried her eyes out for whatever reason. I really get snappish when people put me into a second-class role as a mother because my child didn't come out of my womb. Strangely, I have no problem with my daughter wanting to love her biomom. She should! This woman wasn't much of a parent for 3 years but she really did do the best she could. Drugs had defeated her long before she got pregnant and yet she managed to stay off of drugs for 8 months for her foetus. She truly loved her child as much as she could, it just wasn't enough. That being said, I AM my daughter's mother, mom, mommy and I'll be danged if I'll let anyone put another in that spot -- either verbally or on paper! [/QUOTE]
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