mrscatinthehat
Seussical
Adoptive moms I have a question for you. Something happened today that really upset me and has when this type of thing has happened on other occaisions. Maybe I shouldnt be so sensitive but I had to ask this of some of you.
Doesnt it bother you (or maybe it doesnt happen to you) when service providers refer to you as the adoptive/step mother and the other woman as their mom? We got some paper work today and it listed me as adoptive mom and the egg donor as mother. Well # one I wanted to know why she was even on the paperwork. The JCO explained that was just informational. Well it isnt helpful. Not to difficult child not to us. I mean I know I am his mom that is not in doubt. But why keep throwing her information at a child that cant handle it. I was disregarded on this and it made me so mad.
At this time I let it go (as if I had a choice).
I mean anyone can create a child but not everyone can be a parent. We all know this but for some reason these folks just dont get it.
Her name should not be included in reports anymore with difficult child 2 as she has no rights there at all. If they want to include her information in something do it in the histories that I know they have. That is more than plenty.
Does this happen to others or is this just one of my perks? How do you all handle it?
Beth
Doesnt it bother you (or maybe it doesnt happen to you) when service providers refer to you as the adoptive/step mother and the other woman as their mom? We got some paper work today and it listed me as adoptive mom and the egg donor as mother. Well # one I wanted to know why she was even on the paperwork. The JCO explained that was just informational. Well it isnt helpful. Not to difficult child not to us. I mean I know I am his mom that is not in doubt. But why keep throwing her information at a child that cant handle it. I was disregarded on this and it made me so mad.
At this time I let it go (as if I had a choice).
I mean anyone can create a child but not everyone can be a parent. We all know this but for some reason these folks just dont get it.
Her name should not be included in reports anymore with difficult child 2 as she has no rights there at all. If they want to include her information in something do it in the histories that I know they have. That is more than plenty.
Does this happen to others or is this just one of my perks? How do you all handle it?
Beth