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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 600754" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon, listen, it's NOT your fault and you are NOT a failure.</p><p></p><p>You have two children who are hard to raise and one who has obvious disabilities. Your daughter may have some problems too. Both could be differently wired and I believe you said you are a single mom. If so, you had to do all the parenting of two very difficult kids yourself. I doubt anyone else could have done much more. Some kids are just harder to raise because of temperament and/or perhaps inherited mental illness/drug use (which also isn't your f ault if that's a factor). </p><p></p><p>Your daughter doesn't understand that it's not that easy to just put her brother in a home. WHAT home? How much does it cost? It is kind of a stretch to say you need to send your son to a home not to show favortism. It doesn't make any sense either. </p><p></p><p>You desperately need somebody to talk to so that you can build up your own self esteem. There has to be a county mental health clinic around. My advice is to make an appointment for yourself so that you can start working on what makes YOU happy. You already raised your daughter. Now her choices are in her hands. You need to learn how to not take her criticism to heart, which isn't easy to do, but you can learn how to do it. Also, a counselor may know how you can get help/support/relief with your son. </p><p></p><p>Don't be so hard on yourself. None of us expected to end up on this board yet here we are! Keep posting and give us an update. Make sure you find that counselor to talk to! (((HUgs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 600754, member: 1550"] Hon, listen, it's NOT your fault and you are NOT a failure. You have two children who are hard to raise and one who has obvious disabilities. Your daughter may have some problems too. Both could be differently wired and I believe you said you are a single mom. If so, you had to do all the parenting of two very difficult kids yourself. I doubt anyone else could have done much more. Some kids are just harder to raise because of temperament and/or perhaps inherited mental illness/drug use (which also isn't your f ault if that's a factor). Your daughter doesn't understand that it's not that easy to just put her brother in a home. WHAT home? How much does it cost? It is kind of a stretch to say you need to send your son to a home not to show favortism. It doesn't make any sense either. You desperately need somebody to talk to so that you can build up your own self esteem. There has to be a county mental health clinic around. My advice is to make an appointment for yourself so that you can start working on what makes YOU happy. You already raised your daughter. Now her choices are in her hands. You need to learn how to not take her criticism to heart, which isn't easy to do, but you can learn how to do it. Also, a counselor may know how you can get help/support/relief with your son. Don't be so hard on yourself. None of us expected to end up on this board yet here we are! Keep posting and give us an update. Make sure you find that counselor to talk to! (((HUgs))) [/QUOTE]
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