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Adult son back in jail for the nth time
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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 679691" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>I read an article for parents who's adult children are in jail to not fund their accounts. This is considered enabling. They have to have it hurt hard to be in prison, to lose everything, so that they will learn. If you fund the account, it makes it easier on them. They get contact with outside world, they get their donuts, extra food, which they can trade for phone cards to call people they shouldn't, etc. I found this article after I had funded my son's account. I found out he was trading his stuff for a phone card to call the crack girlfriend, who had put a PPO out on him. I found out after he had left the detention center what he had done. So if it ever happens again, no, I won't fund his account. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are going through all of this- there are many folks who have gone through the grand-children side of things; using them as pawns, making you feel guilty, the threats, and they can help you through this part of it all. I haven't experience that but I know it would be difficult. But I am agreement that the parents should be responsible for their children, but if you suspect any abuse, do call CPS.</p><p></p><p>Jail sometimes is the only thing that can help them out of their downward spiral to hell, for them to realize consequences for their actions. He is safe, has a place to sleep, no drugs available, not stalking girlfriend. He needs a major time out- and hopefully the courts will get him help he needs. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Big Hugs to you and stay strong, stay the course.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 679691, member: 19951"] I read an article for parents who's adult children are in jail to not fund their accounts. This is considered enabling. They have to have it hurt hard to be in prison, to lose everything, so that they will learn. If you fund the account, it makes it easier on them. They get contact with outside world, they get their donuts, extra food, which they can trade for phone cards to call people they shouldn't, etc. I found this article after I had funded my son's account. I found out he was trading his stuff for a phone card to call the crack girlfriend, who had put a PPO out on him. I found out after he had left the detention center what he had done. So if it ever happens again, no, I won't fund his account. I am so sorry you are going through all of this- there are many folks who have gone through the grand-children side of things; using them as pawns, making you feel guilty, the threats, and they can help you through this part of it all. I haven't experience that but I know it would be difficult. But I am agreement that the parents should be responsible for their children, but if you suspect any abuse, do call CPS. Jail sometimes is the only thing that can help them out of their downward spiral to hell, for them to realize consequences for their actions. He is safe, has a place to sleep, no drugs available, not stalking girlfriend. He needs a major time out- and hopefully the courts will get him help he needs. Big Hugs to you and stay strong, stay the course. [/QUOTE]
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