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Adult son back in jail for the nth time
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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 680194" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>DM,</p><p></p><p>I get it. I'm at the point, now, where the lies don't bother me. I have just accepted that, pretty much, everything is a lie. "How do you know when a junkie is lying? His/her lips are moving." </p><p></p><p>Eventually you just get to that point. What set me off this time is the actual truth. </p><p></p><p>I think savior is right about jail. I think it is a weird thing. In a way they don't want to be there because they can't get high, but it another way they thrive there because it is the only place they experience any stability. They can't wait to get out, and have the whole formula for when they can get out figured out, but they end up right back in. It's such an odd dichotomy. </p><p></p><p>I said before, I'm at the point, now, where I just wish that they would keep her for the entire 5 years or longer. It may be selfish, but that would be 5 less years of stress for me. The worst thing is the waiting for that call. The one where you finally hear that they have died as some result of their lifestyle. It's like going to the dentist. You dread it, but you know it's coming.</p><p></p><p>DM, what I like about writing letters is that you can put your feeling right out there, all of them, and you don't have to listen to arguments and lies and excuses. You can choose not to open any letters sent to you util you want to. There is something very cathartic about being able to clearly express your feelings without having them challenged or refuted.</p><p></p><p>Your instincts are correct. He didn't shoot meth "just that once." There is usually a progression of use and injecting is way down the line. They usually start with less potent methods (with heroin they snort 1st) and work their way up to the big guns. I learned this from my sister. They resist shooting as long as they can because they know once they start shooting again they are going way down the wormhole. I don't know why they see they snorting as "less serious" but they do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 680194, member: 20051"] DM, I get it. I'm at the point, now, where the lies don't bother me. I have just accepted that, pretty much, everything is a lie. "How do you know when a junkie is lying? His/her lips are moving." Eventually you just get to that point. What set me off this time is the actual truth. I think savior is right about jail. I think it is a weird thing. In a way they don't want to be there because they can't get high, but it another way they thrive there because it is the only place they experience any stability. They can't wait to get out, and have the whole formula for when they can get out figured out, but they end up right back in. It's such an odd dichotomy. I said before, I'm at the point, now, where I just wish that they would keep her for the entire 5 years or longer. It may be selfish, but that would be 5 less years of stress for me. The worst thing is the waiting for that call. The one where you finally hear that they have died as some result of their lifestyle. It's like going to the dentist. You dread it, but you know it's coming. DM, what I like about writing letters is that you can put your feeling right out there, all of them, and you don't have to listen to arguments and lies and excuses. You can choose not to open any letters sent to you util you want to. There is something very cathartic about being able to clearly express your feelings without having them challenged or refuted. Your instincts are correct. He didn't shoot meth "just that once." There is usually a progression of use and injecting is way down the line. They usually start with less potent methods (with heroin they snort 1st) and work their way up to the big guns. I learned this from my sister. They resist shooting as long as they can because they know once they start shooting again they are going way down the wormhole. I don't know why they see they snorting as "less serious" but they do. [/QUOTE]
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