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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 226324" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Huge hugs girl!!! I am so sorry.</p><p></p><p>You know, I did not have the inlaw scenario, just my own parents - and that was still enough to brain damage me. I can understand where husband is coming from in trying to "make things work" because I did the same thing for years with my parents. However husband is going to have to come to his own epiphany on this, and stop trying to enable everyone to get along. (Which is what I did for years with my parents, and it wrecked M many, many times). </p><p></p><p>I would say if husband insists on peace, harmony, and appeasing his parents - then he gets total responsibility for K and the aftermath. He can pick up the pieces, if he insists K have these outings and interactions.</p><p></p><p>Be strong, and keep being that warrior mom. You know what K needs. If the inlaws want to sing rainbows and unicorns - and husband wants to appease them - then leave for the weekend - and let them sing, sing, sing. Perhaps, suffering their own natural consequences would wake them up?</p><p></p><p>I know it is hard, because you want to protect K - and make sure she is okay - but perhaps even one weekend of full responsibility would be an eye opener for the inlaws, and husband.</p><p></p><p>So sorry........you did not need this now. Be strong. Of course you are an awesome mom. husband knows this, or he would not have married you<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> But he is also suffering from his own familial dysfunction it sounds like. Give it time, it will all work out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 226324, member: 3301"] Huge hugs girl!!! I am so sorry. You know, I did not have the inlaw scenario, just my own parents - and that was still enough to brain damage me. I can understand where husband is coming from in trying to "make things work" because I did the same thing for years with my parents. However husband is going to have to come to his own epiphany on this, and stop trying to enable everyone to get along. (Which is what I did for years with my parents, and it wrecked M many, many times). I would say if husband insists on peace, harmony, and appeasing his parents - then he gets total responsibility for K and the aftermath. He can pick up the pieces, if he insists K have these outings and interactions. Be strong, and keep being that warrior mom. You know what K needs. If the inlaws want to sing rainbows and unicorns - and husband wants to appease them - then leave for the weekend - and let them sing, sing, sing. Perhaps, suffering their own natural consequences would wake them up? I know it is hard, because you want to protect K - and make sure she is okay - but perhaps even one weekend of full responsibility would be an eye opener for the inlaws, and husband. So sorry........you did not need this now. Be strong. Of course you are an awesome mom. husband knows this, or he would not have married you:) But he is also suffering from his own familial dysfunction it sounds like. Give it time, it will all work out. [/QUOTE]
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