trinityroyal
Well-Known Member
Normally when a friend asks a favour, I just say yes, wade in and do it, and then forget all about it. Or, say no if I'm not in a position to help out...
This morning, a friend asked me to do her a favour, and for some reason it's not sitting right with me. I'm not quite sure how to react or what to do, and I'd like to get others' opinions on how best to handle it.
Here's the message she sent me:
The things that are niggling at me are:
- She's asking me to do as a favour the type of work I provide to my clients in my "day job"
- Based on the effort her project will likely require, one dance lesson doesn't come close to balancing out against the time, work and supplies involved
- I kinda feel like I'm being set up with a sob story (I'm sick, I've lost my job, etc.)
- Between my client work, the family business, volunteer work, preparing for the babies...I feel a bit strapped for time already, and don't know that I want to take on another project, however small
I do want to help out a friend in trouble, but I don't want it to become a habit with her. I've been burned by offering this type of help to friends in the past, and think that might be colouring my response in this case.
My gut feel isn't strong enough to point me one way or the other, so I'd appreciate your thoughts. So, what do you think?
Am I being petty? Selfish?
Am I right to feel a bit uneasy about this request?
What would you do?
Thanks!
Trinity
This morning, a friend asked me to do her a favour, and for some reason it's not sitting right with me. I'm not quite sure how to react or what to do, and I'd like to get others' opinions on how best to handle it.
Here's the message she sent me:
How are you? I hope much better than I have been. I am not working at the office job any more. I was very sick and still need to take it easy until my medications does its thing. In the mean time I am teaching a group class here and there. I need to work on getting more classes to teach so I am kindly asking for assistant in preparing my advertising strategies. Would you in the next week be able to spare some time to help me. I have all my strategies in my mind but not to good at wording it properly. I desperately want to get this going out there soon.
Please let me know if you can. The weekends are much better as I teach classes during the weekday evenings. I would ppreciated it very much plus I would give you a free dance lesson for helping me.
Please let me know if you can. The weekends are much better as I teach classes during the weekday evenings. I would ppreciated it very much plus I would give you a free dance lesson for helping me.
The things that are niggling at me are:
- She's asking me to do as a favour the type of work I provide to my clients in my "day job"
- Based on the effort her project will likely require, one dance lesson doesn't come close to balancing out against the time, work and supplies involved
- I kinda feel like I'm being set up with a sob story (I'm sick, I've lost my job, etc.)
- Between my client work, the family business, volunteer work, preparing for the babies...I feel a bit strapped for time already, and don't know that I want to take on another project, however small
I do want to help out a friend in trouble, but I don't want it to become a habit with her. I've been burned by offering this type of help to friends in the past, and think that might be colouring my response in this case.
My gut feel isn't strong enough to point me one way or the other, so I'd appreciate your thoughts. So, what do you think?
Am I being petty? Selfish?
Am I right to feel a bit uneasy about this request?
What would you do?
Thanks!
Trinity