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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 442758" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I vote for cleaning it and getting rid of clothing you don't approve of. Then store ALL that is not a basic - mattress on floor so she cannot hide stuff under it, or not as much. Blanket and pillow and sheets, ceiling light OR lamp if no ceiling light, 7 outfits that YOU chose, 1 pr shoes. She can EARN everything else back with good behavior. No good behavior? No other stuff. Take enough away and she cannot trash the room or make it stink. You shoudl NOT have to tolerate stink in your home. ANd her being gone for a while gives you a good chance to impose some order. Her not following the rules of probation (or your house most likely) are enough of a reason to restrict her belongings. </p><p></p><p>I recommend wearing gloves and at least a paper face mask as you go through the clothes. If any were wet they may have grown mold that can be hazardous to your health. My oldest learned this - and made himself pretty sick dealing with some piles of clothing. </p><p></p><p>Have you thought about hwat you want to happen when she is released? How hard is she to live with? Usually the goal is for the child to come home, but at her age if she isn't following rules then maybe you need to think about having her go to a group home first? Not saying you should, just that you should think about that. She is close to 18 and needs to think about what seh will do as an adult, as do you. Do you intend to have her live at home after age 18? What skills can this placement teach her for living on ehr own, should you or she decide she is not coming home?</p><p></p><p>It doesn't make you a bad parent to have had enough of living iwth her behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 442758, member: 1233"] I vote for cleaning it and getting rid of clothing you don't approve of. Then store ALL that is not a basic - mattress on floor so she cannot hide stuff under it, or not as much. Blanket and pillow and sheets, ceiling light OR lamp if no ceiling light, 7 outfits that YOU chose, 1 pr shoes. She can EARN everything else back with good behavior. No good behavior? No other stuff. Take enough away and she cannot trash the room or make it stink. You shoudl NOT have to tolerate stink in your home. ANd her being gone for a while gives you a good chance to impose some order. Her not following the rules of probation (or your house most likely) are enough of a reason to restrict her belongings. I recommend wearing gloves and at least a paper face mask as you go through the clothes. If any were wet they may have grown mold that can be hazardous to your health. My oldest learned this - and made himself pretty sick dealing with some piles of clothing. Have you thought about hwat you want to happen when she is released? How hard is she to live with? Usually the goal is for the child to come home, but at her age if she isn't following rules then maybe you need to think about having her go to a group home first? Not saying you should, just that you should think about that. She is close to 18 and needs to think about what seh will do as an adult, as do you. Do you intend to have her live at home after age 18? What skills can this placement teach her for living on ehr own, should you or she decide she is not coming home? It doesn't make you a bad parent to have had enough of living iwth her behavior. [/QUOTE]
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